I had been seeing a guy for about a year who had just gotten out of a 7 year relationship so he said he didn't want to get serious. We have known each other since high school (I'm 23) and he cheated on his girlfriend with me a few years ago (I felt horrible and ended that, but it took him another year to confess it to his girlfriend). Things were rocky from the start because I wanted more, and he said things like he "could" love me. It screwed with my mind, and I thought if I gave him time it would work out. Back in November he told me very honestly that he was seeing a huge improvement in my mood, that I seemed really happy and that he was really happy for me, it felt like it meant a lot. A week later he saw a guy completely randomly kiss me out of no where at a party. He immediately told me he didn't want to "hook up with me if I was going to let random guys make out with me" it was completely unreasonable because we were not exclusive. When we talked about it later he claimed not to care and when I took a while to answer a text of his about it he just texted back "Fuck Off!" We didn't talk for a few weeks after that. I got a weird blank text message from him and a missed call at around one am about two weeks after he told me to fuck off. I called him back a few days later, although I hadn't planned to. He told me simply he called because he was "drunk and wanted to fuck." This is a guy who has good, kind friends who also think of him as a good person. I have never been treated this way by a guy before and I am extremely confused. I texted him the next day telling him that the next time he was "drunk and wants to fuck" to forget my number. I didn't get a response and that was over a month ago. Please tell me what the hell this means? I want to move on, but I still care about him and don't know why he acted like this.
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First of all what do you mean by he "could" love you and giving him time? does that mean you were going out with him while hoping he would actually love you?
My impression here is one of miscommunication. You thought you weren't exclusive but he may be thinking it's more than that. It also seems that he thought you'd be there for him until he's ready to take your relationship to the next level but seeing you kiss another guy shook up his confidence and trust in you.
Oh well.. my point is stop dilly-dallying and make it clear. Do you guys wanna date or not? do you still want to hook up with him or do you want to just cut off your friendship? make it clear to him (and to yourself)2
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