I am 49 and he is 53. Everything in our relationship is great.We get along, we don;t fight and in the bedroom there are no problems that I know of. We have both been married before and divorced. We both have our own house and we don't live together. I told him that I will not move in without a ring. My problem is that he asked me to help him with something on the computer and what I found was craigs list casual encounters in his browser. I asked him why it was there and he said that he didn;t know why to just delete it. In the beginning of our relationship I found out what his password was and didn;t tell him. I have been checking on him ever since. I know it is wrong but I have to be sure. In the beginning, my ex boyfriend hacked into his email and sent me all his emails. My boyfriend since has changed his password and I found it. When my ex boyfriend hacked into his email he was emailing women on plenty of fish and craigs list. He said the reason he did this was that he thought that I was gonna go back to my ex. and that nothing happened and he will not do it again.That is when he said he loved me when I found this information At that time we were going out 7 months. Well now after finding out his password he clicks onto dating websites and just browses still after all the talk. He actually responded to one girl by saying hey. I saw the emails and I know what she wanted and he knew what she wanted. I can't confront him cause he will shut down totally. So I gave him a marriage ultimatus when I was drunk last year of 3 years. I dont; know what to do? Its eating me alive,not sleeping at night and so on. My boyfriend is gonna know something is wrong and I can't tell him. What should I do. I want to marry him and I know that he wants to marry me. Is this normal?Now I don;t know if he truly loves me or not. He told me tht he would like to get married but he has to wait until the end of the summer to see how his financial situation is.So, I'm thing of staying until the end of the summer and ifnothing then just leave. I'm so confused.
Just an update. No ring for Valentine's day. I checked his email and that JJ lady sent him a message. She said Quickie and it looks like he read it. But I don't see anything else in the email. To me it seems like by clicking onto that email, that he is still not sure about us. What do you think? Do you still think that he is stringing me along? So I guess I'll wait it out until the end of the summer. Any feedback would be great.