I've been single a couple of months now. I joined internet dating about 4/5 days ago (bored of being asked out by men in bars and clubs lol and only wanting sex). I get about 30 emails a day. Most I'm not interested in, a couple I think are okay and just one guy on there I've started talking to who I really really like. Is it rude and more polite to reply even if it's a "no thanks" or just ignore it? I don't want to be rude but is it a bit of a downer/lower their self confidence if I actually say I'm not interested?
One of them specifically said on his profile he thought it was rude not to reply and another sent me another email a couple of hours after his first because I didn't with sad faces on etc.
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I've done internet dating, and at first I felt like you did and felt extremley bad for ignoring them. You know what though, MANY of those guys are sending out the same message to multiple girls, so you are prob one of many. How do I know this? Well after a few weeks being on the site you'll get a message from a guy who already messaged you and it will say the SAME EXACT thing it said in the previous one. At that point you don't feel so bad for not answering.
If you feel REALLY bad you could always just leave the messages unread, and delete them. Check out their profile first, then decide if you want to open them. For all they know you are recieveing so many messages a day that you can't even keep up with your inbox, same as regular e-mail.
Another tip, I see that you really like this one guy that your talking to. DO NO limit yourself with who you talk to on site. If you see another guy you might be interested in, talk to him, don't assume that because you like this one guy its going to work out. I learned that MANY guys kept there options open and talked to multiple girls at once, and you have to do the same until you see something that you want to pursue.
And last tip lol, becareful of guys on the rebound! Many guys after a bad break up will join internet dating sites in hopes of filling that void. I know many guys that have joined it after a break up without having the intention of getting into a relationship or dating and even met the girls! I actaully met one "great" guy who I thought was too good to be true. Things started getting serious and all of a sudden he backs off. Little did I know him and his ex had just broken up a few weeks prior and he was still seeing her!2
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