What the hell? I've been hanging out with a guy I like that's 10 years older than me and a different race than me a couple times a week every week since December . Since he spends all his free time with me and I've even met his family I really thought he liked me. He even suggested taking me on a cruise for my birthday this summer. Randomly tonight he sends me a text that says "I'm thinking I'm not your type and all, but friends are good." I texted back "uh ok? I'm not sure where that's coming from but ok." And he said "that's cool, just saying."
Ummmm? I don't want to overreact so I haven't texted him anything else but I'm really confused and really hurt. Is that his way of saying he's totally over me?
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You should have asked him what he meant by that.
Did he mean that HE felt rejected, or assumed that YOU didn't think he was your type?
Did he mean that HE felt that YOU weren't the match for him?
I don't understand if he feels rejected since you two have been "dating" for months and nothing has been official. Or if he doesn't feel a connection with you after being involved with you for months.
You'd have to ask him to elaborate. Or simply say, "I have to admit I'm disappointing. I really liked you and thought a relationship would come of this. But if you just want to be friends, I completely understand."
His text was too vague for me to interpret what he actually meant. So I believe you should send the above text to him. If he IS interested he'll clarify, if he's not interested he'll agree that being friends is best.
Good luck, and please give us an update.1