What is the best way to avoid being needy and desperate around women you're attracted to?
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I think that if, in your head, you have other options in your life, I think that does a lot to help. If the coffee place is closed, you have an idea of another really cool coffee shop in the area. You have plans and are doing things, and not sitting around all day because no one invited you to something that day. You want to go out and you've got nothing standing in your way (like work)? Do it! Be the catalyst for activity.
I was reading an article about how many of us have a conversation where it seems like we're boring. We answer the same ways. "How are you?" "Fine." "What have you been up to?" "Nothing" or "work." The article argued for having a life interesting enough where you can always think of something fun or cool that you did recently. Since then, I try to answer with something more substantial than "just working." It takes some practice, but it can change how you're perceived (and change how you perceive things and how you live your life).
And no, I'm not scaling mountains, or jumping out of planes, but I try to make improvements to my life so I can BE more interesting (if I have nothing interesting to say). Have a life you want with as many options as you can create (don't be an idiot and overspend on a vacation you can't afford, or go into huge debt for some silly thing you don't need).
Show you have a life and that you think you're worth being treated well by others.
A friend treats you badly, and always has? Drop them. They're toxic. Have who you think is worthwhile; family, true friends... it's not about the girl. If a girl treats you badly over and over, you're worth much more, and you let everyone know that. Cut out as many toxic people as you can. Don't let them bring you down.
Hope this helps.0