So I've been in one previous relationship and I was pretty hurt by that. I had an emotional connection with that guy although I never slept with him. I felt like we had something an unknown unspoken understanding about eachother and I fell for him really hard. But since I've even hurt by that relationship, I vowed never to let myself become so attached so fast. It took me almost a year to get over him. And I sometimes thin I'll never really be completely over him because he was my "first love."
Now a little more than a year later I started seeing another guy. He's great in every aspect and perfect for me on paper. I enjoy spending time with him but I don't miss him when I don't see him like I did with the first guy. I also have less fun with this guy than the other one. I am attracted to him physically and like spending time with him. My question is would that feeling of connection come later? Is it because I have been hurt in the past and don't want to become vulnerable that I'm not so attached to this guy? Or is he just the wrong guy for me? But I know logically he is perfect. So why can't I develop an emotional connection to him? It's already been 4 month
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It could be because I have been hurt in the past and don't want to become vulnerable and a combination of actually just no clicking with this guy. Tell him you need more time to "heal". You need to let life happen on life's terms, so? its really all up to you, don't go into something you can't see a silver lining in or that you don't see yourself finishing, people will get hurt and time will be wasted if you jump into a relationship too soon, that's just the vibe I got. I hope it helps0
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