It is natural to want your other half and to experience that kind of love that they can provide but for ugly guys like me it is pretty much impossible. I feel that if you are not hot, have money or outgoing or adventures you may as well just give up right now and not even bother trying. I have only been with a girl for four weeks and I am 31. :( How much of a looser am I. Please no mean answer I am only trying to be honest to get honest advice.
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Lots of ugly guys do just fine with women. How do they do it? By accepting that there's only so much they can do about their appearance, and focusing their energies on things they CAN change and improve.
Girls are attracted to CONFIDENCE and to success and strength (physical, emotional, managerial, etc.). Your looks don't prevent you from being or having those attributes.
Do you have a talent? If so, develop it, and be proud of it, and sooner or later, other people will be too. Find leadership positions and do well at them (read books about leadership, and learn the techniques).
If you are a good, confident leader, at work or at your hobby/sport/pastime, or are just confident and can make people laugh, feel relaxed, and have fun, then most girls will forgive your looks.
Sitting in the corner of the room, being afraid to talk to anyone, isn't going to get you anywhere. You have to learn to take the initiative: keep a smile on your face, laugh out loud, and "include" people in YOUR good time, and soon people will want you around, and you'll gain popularity and friends.
It's really easy to make excuses and to talk yourself out of approaching girls, but most guys who are good with girls have approached a TON of them, and most of the time, got shot down. The reason they're good is because they DIDN'T CARE about the rejections - only about the successes. And by gaining so much experience, they greatly improved their rate of success, just like a baseball player who has to go to batting practice a bunch before he learns how to hit a Major League slider or curveball. If you never practice, how can you expect to perform well in the big game, when it really counts?
If you are too embarrassed to "practice" talking to girls on your "home turf", then get in your car, drive a few towns away, and talk to girls there, until you've done it SO MUCH that rejection doesn't bother you anymore. By then, you'll have learned a TON, and will have some game.1