i have become obessed with looking for the one and i know they say that if i stop looking for her and like they say she'll eventually show up, and well i just want to go out have fun, meet women and so on and so forth.
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I've been there recently. The last serious relationship I was in was around 4 years ago and in these four years I had a phase where I used to put so much pressure on myself on finding the one. I felt like I was getting old and soon I won't look as good anymore and I will never find the one. So I started checking out every guy, I was flirting like there's no tomorrow and meeting guys seeing which one fits me best but after a while I started to feel bad because I felt like I was using them and obviously I can't force love or someone to be the one when he's just not. What also made me feel pressured was that it said online that usually by the age of 16 most girls already met the guy they will marry and spend their life with but in my eyes I haven't met him back then. So then I stopped and just calmed down. I stopped going crazy over this, i stopped talking to all these guys, stopped flirting and just minded some other business of mine with the thought that one day he will come by, it just takes time and patience. And I was right! I met him 2 years ago but back then I didn't know he's the one yet. Only recently we started seeing each other more and kind of dating and in my eyes he's the one. And we met totally unexpectedly. So slow down, stop pressuring yourself, go out with friends and just meet girls without the thought maybe she's the one. Just have fun and trust me, she will come by sooner or later :)0