To sum it up, I really like this girl and she feels the same way. However, her parents don't want her to be in a relationship and to focus on school- and she respects her parents' wishes. So she later asked me to 'be friends'. At first I was hesitant and told her 'I can't be friends with someone I have feelings for'. She seemed upset by this, her and her friends started to ignore me on campus for a week. I asked a female friend for advice, and she told me that she was most likely hurt by what I said. So I sent her a heartfelt apology summarized that I was willing to put my feelings aside for a friendship- and to come to me when she's ready to 'date'.
So, I was studying at a study area on campus and her and her friend passed by 'pretending not to notice me'. Whatever, then later her friend came by smiling and strikes up a conversation with me about pretty much nothing. I see her later and I say Hi and try to strike up a conversation and while she is smiling, she seems distant, and really awkward. She's a really shy girl if that matters.
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better watch that "Friend".. as for the girl you like.. sounds like you made it hard for her to choose between her family and you.
You shouldn't have to put your feelings aside because someone doesn't agree to them.. but on the other hand, being friends is where any relationship should start - and to her, you saying that, "'I can't be friends with someone I have feelings for" that says I only want to fuck her.
Being friends is where most girls like to start, it shows you're not only out to screw - and with her being in a 'strict' family; being friends would be understanding on your part. It shows you respect her values and family. Saying what you did, didn't just upset her, but actually showed her who you truly are inside.
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