How can I stop looking for love and focus on becoming something in life?

Question

Ever since I can remember I have been so into the idea of falling in love. I want to focus on my studies and on becoming something worthwhile, but I dont know how. I also feel like I have no goals in life, like I'm just living life one day at a time. Any opinions anyone? Do I need therapy?

Answer 1

RohitLakra | 109 opinions shared on Education & Career topic.

Explorer

You don't need therapy. You do need to understand that your desire to find love is driven by your own lack of self worth. It may or may not apply to you, but it was my case because I felt that I need to find someone I can love then I'll be back to feeling good and progress in my education and career swiftly. It would be a breeze. Anyway that was toxic. It's difficult to get out of this mindset. I'd recommend you to make friends or spend more time with them, engage in family activities and try to get out of home to do things you like to do. Giving these people or things time may help you develop some self love. When you're satisfied that way, you don't crave to fall in love with someone as often. I'm not sure if this would work for you, but you should give it a try.

chichi_01

1 mo
Thank you so much
that sounds right in my case as well, because I feel like I had this belief that I cannot be loved as so I was seeking it
and yeah I need to do that, all of that
You are getting mho man XD
thanks for taking time to help out
RohitLakra

1 mo
Nah you're alright. We are all like that. Just learn to love yourself. Thanks! I'll be waiting for mho ;) I've been in same situation few months ago and had to deal with my conservative family, so I can relate to you. Feel free to reach out to me if you would like to talk more about this issue!
chichi_01

1 mo
Thank you again I will reach out to you 😂let my xp increase a bit 😂oh gosh I'm afraid if they ban me for "spamming"
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RohitLakra

1 mo
They won't ban you. Do people get xp points for giving comments? Anyway you can answer bunch of my questions for xp points and mho if you want lol You said you were on this app few years ago. I was pretty active here back then and recently started using gag again. Is there a chance I already know you? What was your username back then?
chichi_01

1 mo
Oh I've been adding a lot of opinions today let's see

And my username was amnooreen I think I don't remember.. What was yours? There's a chance we might have crossed paths who knows 😮

Answer 2

chichi_01

Thank you so much
that sounds right in my case as well, because I feel like I had this belief that I cannot be loved as so I was seeking it
and yeah I need to do that, all of that
You are getting mho man XD
thanks for taking time to help out

Answer 3

RohitLakra

Nah you're alright. We are all like that. Just learn to love yourself. Thanks! I'll be waiting for mho ;) I've been in same situation few months ago and had to deal with my conservative family, so I can relate to you. Feel free to reach out to me if you would like to talk more about this issue!

Answer 4

chichi_01

Thank you again I will reach out to you 😂let my xp increase a bit 😂oh gosh I'm afraid if they ban me for "spamming"

Answer 5

RohitLakra

They won't ban you. Do people get xp points for giving comments? Anyway you can answer bunch of my questions for xp points and mho if you want lol You said you were on this app few years ago. I was pretty active here back then and recently started using gag again. Is there a chance I already know you? What was your username back then?

Answer 6

chichi_01

Oh I've been adding a lot of opinions today let's see

And my username was amnooreen I think I don't remember.. What was yours? There's a chance we might have crossed paths who knows 😮

Answer 7

SunnySri

Xper 6

No mam you don't need therapy. And It's not bad to look for love either. The only issue you should be worried about is your studies. You cannot decide on goals easily so it's better to start with finding the subjects you are interested in then decide according to it what you want to do in the future.

chichi_01

1 mo
Yes I do like certain subjects.
The problem is also that I am preoccupying myself with the idea of love so I am not improving/ achieving in the subjects that I like
SunnySri

1 mo
Hmm that's understandable.
You have a fantasy in your head and it's keeping you from focusing on something else.
Best thing to do according to me is pick up a subject and start studying it then when you start thinking about love do something to distract yourself like listen music for a few minutes ( not romantic) then when the thought passes away start studying again.
chichi_01

1 mo
Thanks I will try that!

I especially liked how you said "not romantic" songs XD hahaha
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SunnySri

1 mo
No issues mam, if you ever need help you can ask me.
chichi_01

1 mo
thanks a lot!
SunnySri

1 mo
Thank you mam for the MHO
chichi_01

1 mo
welcome sir

Answer 8

chichi_01

Yes I do like certain subjects.
The problem is also that I am preoccupying myself with the idea of love so I am not improving/ achieving in the subjects that I like

Answer 9

SunnySri

Hmm that's understandable.
You have a fantasy in your head and it's keeping you from focusing on something else.
Best thing to do according to me is pick up a subject and start studying it then when you start thinking about love do something to distract yourself like listen music for a few minutes ( not romantic) then when the thought passes away start studying again.

Answer 10

chichi_01

Thanks I will try that!

I especially liked how you said "not romantic" songs XD hahaha

Answer 11

SunnySri

No issues mam, if you ever need help you can ask me.

Answer 12

chichi_01

thanks a lot!

Answer 13

SunnySri

Thank you mam for the MHO

Answer 14

chichi_01

welcome sir

Answer 15

Elsa143 | 89 opinions shared on Education & Career topic.

Explorer

No you don't need therapy. I used to be like you but after witnessing so many lies, betrayals and scandals I realized that it's too difficult to find someone worthy of you.
But in career you get what you give.
At least it's more fair than your so called boyfriend who will stray despite being good.
Hardwork and dedication in a career always pays off but the same can't be guaranteed in love.

Answer 16

laki36

Xper 3

Imagine you knew you are going to meet the love of your life exactly in 3 years, but if you are not happy with yourself or feel you are not worth them by that time, they disappear.
Now: how should your life look and what should you do for the next 3 years before meeting them?

chichi_01

1 mo
Okay. Wow. 😮
Thanks a lot I never thought of that!
laki36

1 mo
So... what should you do? How should your life look like so you are happy with yourself?
chichi_01

1 mo
I don't know that yet but I know I need to think about it :)

Answer 17

chichi_01

Okay. Wow. 😮
Thanks a lot I never thought of that!

Answer 18

laki36

So... what should you do? How should your life look like so you are happy with yourself?

Answer 19

chichi_01

I don't know that yet but I know I need to think about it :)

Answer 20

Jamie05rhs | 211 opinions shared on Education & Career topic.

Guru

Never stop looking for love, if that is one of your life goals. At the same time, do push forward in the pursuit of your other life goals.

Answer 21

Twenty2 | 115 opinions shared on Education & Career topic.

Guru

Why not fall in love then?

chichi_01

1 mo
Long story

Answer 22

chichi_01

Long story

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