Would this be a female loser?

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I'm going to talk about a close relative's daughter. We know what a loser is like. Would she qualify as a female loser:

- Age 28 and childless
- Has no work experience except call centers since she was 19
- Still living in her parents' house
- Has a college BA degree in hospitality hanging on the wall for nothing
- Doesn't work in her field nor applied or jobs about it
- Can't clean a bathroom nor the house, cook nor drive
- Doesn't know how to balance a check nor manage money
- Wastes money on junk food sometimes and is always broke
- Overall, doesn't know how to do anything (nor life skills) except answering calls
- Then she complains about not wanting to be a phone operator forever

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1 y

Her parents still cook for her and sometimes clean her room

Answer 1

DrunkAss

Yoda

I think so. I mean that sentiment is not devoid of sympathy but if she can't even take care of herself or clean after herself at that age, that's probably a loser if there is such a thing.

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Exactly and doing call center is the minimum for unskilled people. I bet she can't even sweep nor mop a floor either. If someone can't do that either then being in a dead-end job like that is all they can afford.

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DrunkAss

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For me, it is like a contrast between when I was a kid. I am from Japan and got a sort of stereotypical Asian upbringing, so I don't blame somebody if they don't get the best jobs but I got a culture clash in the West with respect to discipline. I think Jackie Chan describes it better than I can in this video starting from 2:25:
https://youtu.be/QvL87RB_hrM

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DrunkAss

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Unlike Jackie Chan, I went to high school in the US and I got so much culture shock... like trauma level. Like I see students talking back to teachers, I hang out at their houses and they don't clean up everybody while the mother is chasing them picking up stuff, so undisciplined! And I picked up my worst habits in the US like my drinking. But at least I am disciplined about taking care of myself, cleaning up after myself.

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DrunkAss

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I think if people can't even do that at 20+, that is a big, big problem.

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zeitgeist057

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I agree with Chan to some extent. I have a US upbringing and it was pretty lax, but I was abused instead of disciplined, with no goal of making me respectful or a stronger person. But I still today believe that there is strength to be had through adversity. When I read the question I think about the details about the parents cleaning and cooking for her, it's okay to cook for a loved one but to have someone dependent on you for cleaning and cooking and food and everything, you are not doing them a favor. You are enabling them to be weak and lack skills. She won't learn or do anything for herself because she doesn't have to. It's too bad her parents are so nice to her, it is spoiling her literally and making her life harder ironically.

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Answer 2

Asker

Exactly and doing call center is the minimum for unskilled people. I bet she can't even sweep nor mop a floor either. If someone can't do that either then being in a dead-end job like that is all they can afford.

Answer 3

DrunkAss

For me, it is like a contrast between when I was a kid. I am from Japan and got a sort of stereotypical Asian upbringing, so I don't blame somebody if they don't get the best jobs but I got a culture clash in the West with respect to discipline. I think Jackie Chan describes it better than I can in this video starting from 2:25:
https://youtu.be/QvL87RB_hrM

Answer 4

DrunkAss

Unlike Jackie Chan, I went to high school in the US and I got so much culture shock... like trauma level. Like I see students talking back to teachers, I hang out at their houses and they don't clean up everybody while the mother is chasing them picking up stuff, so undisciplined! And I picked up my worst habits in the US like my drinking. But at least I am disciplined about taking care of myself, cleaning up after myself.

Answer 5

DrunkAss

I think if people can't even do that at 20+, that is a big, big problem.

Answer 6

zeitgeist057

I agree with Chan to some extent. I have a US upbringing and it was pretty lax, but I was abused instead of disciplined, with no goal of making me respectful or a stronger person. But I still today believe that there is strength to be had through adversity. When I read the question I think about the details about the parents cleaning and cooking for her, it's okay to cook for a loved one but to have someone dependent on you for cleaning and cooking and food and everything, you are not doing them a favor. You are enabling them to be weak and lack skills. She won't learn or do anything for herself because she doesn't have to. It's too bad her parents are so nice to her, it is spoiling her literally and making her life harder ironically.

Answer 7

Shihab-91

Xper 6

loser or not that's not the point, don't be afraid of what people think about u unless you can use this fair as a motivation to change. you must know what you like the most ( dream job ).

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goaded | 145 opinions shared on Education & Career topic.

Guru

No, but this...
- Can't clean a bathroom nor the house, cook nor drive
- Doesn't know how to balance a check nor manage money
- Wastes money on junk food sometimes and is always broke

is just being lazy.

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I think the job she's doing is holding her back. She hasn't had a real job that requires actually physical tasks and other demands/responsibilities. By just answering calls, she's doing the minimum that doesn't require a college degree at all and thus making her lazy.

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goaded

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Managing money is simple: spend less than you earn.

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Asker

I think the job she's doing is holding her back. She hasn't had a real job that requires actually physical tasks and other demands/responsibilities. By just answering calls, she's doing the minimum that doesn't require a college degree at all and thus making her lazy.

Answer 10

goaded

Managing money is simple: spend less than you earn.

Answer 11

havingfun101

Explorer

Anthropologically, matarchial societies are necessarily primitive. This is part of Briffault's Law.

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Answer 12

Gavilar1

Xper 5

It's her life , let her live it
But not a loser

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