He has also started to take matters into his own hands when it comes to the kids. Trying to tell me how and why we are going to do things his way and if I object to the way he wants to raise our kids or voice my opinion and compromise, he will straight out tell me no and that the decision has already been finalized.
I now feel (for the first time since my teenage years) completely stuck in a one sided traffic jam. His way goes. And I have no say on the matter. To be quite frank, I am fed up with all of it.
How do you guys feel about being told what to do with zero say in the matter?
Most Helpful Girl
wow, yeah that would push my buttons too...
Tell him that you gladly took over some chores to help his mother, but that you feel that things are getting out of hand. Tell him you are done being the home slave and that he can also stop acting all ruler of the household with anything else.
Tell him that you two need to set up a clear schedule of who does what and what is unacceptable and stick to it. Otherwise he will have to hire a nurse or whoever can come in and do that stuff. After all, it is his mother not yours and you have been doing it for free out of the goodnes of your heart.
Do not let this continue like this. He is clearly taking advantage of the situation and does not appreciate what you do. So it is really simple. Appreciate what you do and help or hire someone. This way you have your life back as well.
and do not feel bad about this, you are under no obligation to do any of it.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm Texan, without a certain amount of authority, we don't respond to orders very well.
You're in a crap situation and he needs a smack up the back of the head.