I plan on getting a pretty big tattoo when I'm old enough but my mom and grandparents are against them. My aunt got a small tattoo on her wrist and some butterflies and everyone freaked out, I used to agree with them on the no tattoo thing but I realized that it's not our lives and we shouldn't be so fucking concerned over it haha. The tattoo I plan on getting would be pretty large (rib cage stomach area) and seeing as I'll have to wait awhile longer to get it I'll be able to think it over and make sure it's something I'd want. I briefly brought up to my mom that I like sleeve tattoos and she responded to that with "if you get one you won't be living in this house" so I think she would react way worse with what I plan on getting. I most likely won't be living with my mom when I get the tattoo but I have no idea what to do. Risk ruining a family relationship or do what I want and what would make me happy? I plan on telling my mom that either way we are all gonna die and whatever we put on OUR bodies won't matter anymore but that's pretty risky in itself. (sidenote: sometimes when I'm out with my grandma and she sees someone with a tattoo she openly expresses herself on what she things about them. normally it's just some comments like "gross" "disgusting, never get tattoos etc)
sorry for such a long explanation.
Most Helpful Guy
Why do you really want one, just in spite of your family? Yeah tattoos look cool, and all that is fun. But what is the point? I have plenty of friends who want them too, and I never understood why they truly want one. It's a big decision to make, and I hope you take into consideration the choice you are planning to make.
Cost: Plan to pay in cash.
If you have any debts like student, car, or credit card debt that is out of hand or getting out of control, take care of that.
Make sure you have twice the money it costs to get the tatto you want, you need back up money and a rainy day fund.
The future, do you have Roth IRAs set up? Are your investements well? Once you get a tatto you may be tempted to get another. Make sure you are conscious about this.
Daily life: Be expected to be stared at if it's visible. You can't control what others think about your tattoo, what it means to you can be compelled different to someone else. Do you want to be explaining what it means every second? Can you handle being ridiculed? People may limit you by the tattoos you get, there is a stereotype of people who get them and they have some truth to them. You are limiting yourself by getting a tattoo period. You can't explain or change everyone's conceptions about tattoos.
Family: Your family doesn't approve of them, and they are your family, they want the best for you. When you think of CEOs, Doctors, Dentists, you don't see them with sleeves or a bunch of tattoos all over. Think about who you are attracting with these things, like I said above, you are limiting who and what kind of people you are going to attract.
Your family doesn't like them, shouldn't you respect that? A tattoo doesn't define your life does it? And if it did, why would another person be drawing it on you if it was so special, wouldn't you do it yourself? Yeah we all seek validation and approval, we want to define ourselves, so instead of putting things on the outside. Change what's on the inside! Everything on the outside may change, but if nothing on the inside changes, you are the same person!
Do you really want to pay someone you don't know hundreds of dollars to permanently stain your skin and cause you harm? Why would you willingly do that to yourself? If anything get a 6 month temporary the ones movie stars get.
You are free to make the choice, but you aren't free from the consequences of your actions!
I don't know, I think there's more to you than some ink. What do you think?
Most Helpful Girl
You could do it and not tell them. They wouldn't see it unless you wore a bikini right? It wasn't until I was older that I got my navel pierced. They didn't find out until after I had done it. My mom is nosy and was searching me on google. My amazon account came up with my wishlist. They didn't want to see it.. so I didn't show them. LOL!0