Are step-parents underrated? Would you want to be one?

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  • I’d say no. My mom married a man with two grown children. I was the youngest daughter. They envied me most of my life. Long story short my dad and I aren’t speaking. But I recommend if you want to have a kid don’t do it with someone who has children. Because when he chooses the other children it breaks the child’s heart.

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  • My step dad was the best father figure I could of asked for, he became step dad to three pre teen girls and had no kids of his own.
    I would deffinatly be a step mum.

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  • I think people who have not had the experience with a step parent would view them as underrated. I would not be necessarily upset with being a step parent, but there are things that you cannot do as a step parent that a parent can do (this actually has to do with the situation of your step parent and if the actual father/mother is in the picture) so it would obviously be different.

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  • I didn't help create that family so I don't belong there.

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What Girls Said 14

  • I'm not sure what you mean by underrated but if I liked a guy who happened to have a child, it wouldn't bother me at all. I would have no problem with being a step-parent. If I love a man, I would of course love his child as well and would treat them as my own. If someone is not willing to love their partner's child, then they shouldn't get into a relationship with someone who has children.

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  • I may be okay with it if the mother is not around and I can raise this child as my child. However, if the mother is around, I think it would be too hard to impose discipline and teach values to a child whose mother teaches things in a different way.

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  • I have a step mom and step dad. I dropped the step a long time ago and feel blessed to have four parents. They both stepped up and became loving role models who I love very much.

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  • I would be honored to help raise my SO's child... Of course there would be challenges... But children are worth it

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  • I don't think they are really underrated. sadly I have a step-grandma who's been a total monster among me and my family. but if I were a stepmom someday, i'd love the kids like as if im their birthmother.

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  • I am a step-mother, and I have a great relationship with her. I couldn't have asked for better.

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  • When I think about step parents I'm reminded of the evil stepmother in Snow White.
    I had a stepdad growing up. He was more in my life than my mother growing up because she worked all the time. He was a very evil man. I was often beaten, he would threaten to take my life often. And when I was 10 years old he groped me. He'd say things like, if you told anybody you would never see your mum again.
    Another experience I've had with stepparents was with a friend. She had two children from separate dads. The father of the second was great with the boy and treat him like his own. One day he snapped though, said he wasn't feeling it anymore and left. He said he wanted nothing to do with the first child but still wanted to see his own. It was pretty sad.
    So I pretty much hate step parents because I've never met a good one. But I would absolutely give it a shot if I was in that situation. I would try my best to do it right.

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  • I absolutely would be one! At my age it’s almost inevitable anyway, but I adore children so that works!

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  • its not an easy job, but I do admire the good ones.

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  • My mother had a stepfather. He was like a grandfather to me. A very kind man😊
    Blended families are very common anyways and mostly work very well

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  • I have step parents

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  • I’m a step mom

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  • I would be one and take care of the children because I had a step parent and didn’t really have a father figure so it was nice having a step parent fill that gap

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  • I would never be a step parent

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What Guys Said 28

  • I worry that at my age, the quality of my seed is low and the child may be born with a defect.
    Hence, I would jump at the opportunity of being a step parent to a 6 to 8 year old girl. It would be a challenge, but I think I could do it.

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    • At 39, you're fine. My Kids were born when I was 37, 39, and 42, and I'm planning on having more.

    • I don't want to risk it. I don't like infants, and hate toddlers. I'm an INTJ in personality (Mastermind / Strategist); I would very quickly teach action and consequence to a child who has some reasonable understanding. I would be fairly liberal, but expect the child to take responsibility for their actions.

    • I'm an INTJ, too. FWIW, and what you described is part of my parenting style.

      If you don't like small Kids, you shouldn't Father any, though.

  • in French step-father and father in law is the same word but I assume you are dealing with me having a single mom girlfriend and beeing the "father figure" for her kid.
    step-parents are underrated because it will comes a moment where the kid will scream at you "you are not my father/mother" dispite all you had done for him/her. And all you done on purpose will not be accounted for you.
    That's one of many reasons why I don't want to date single mothers.

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  • This is a hypothetical I will have a hard time answering. I'm not a fan of kids anyway, I don't think I would like raising another man's kid. Those that do, they are underrated. They deserve a medal.

    I am not at all interested in a single mom. But I'm 22, maybe things will change.

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  • I think step parents in many cases may be better than biological parents because they had a choice to put themselves in that position. A lot of biological children are "surprises" and some may be resented and treated badly.

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  • I'd be happy dating a single parent (have done, didn't get to stage of meeting kids). It would be up to them what role i played in kids life, also on the fathers views to some extent.

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  • At my age, any relationship starting will most likely involve children that are not my own - My last 4 relationships have been with women who had children

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  • The younger you raise them, the easier it is for you to be accepted

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  • I kind of am one. My girlfriend and I both had children from our prior marriages before we got together. One of hers was under 18 when we moved in together, so that one lives with us part time (based on the custody schedule). Her older one lives with us during breaks from college.

    My girlfriend and I are not married so I'm not technically a step-parent but effectively I am one and I think I've developed a pretty good relationship with both of her kids. I'm kind of like a third parent with the younger one (attending school events, helping with homework, providing taxi service to various places, providing guidance on things) and the older one sometimes seeks my advice on some things as well.

    For the most part I like the parent role - whether it's with my own (now adult) kids or my girlfriend's kids.

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  • I would be fine with it if I adopted the kid of my choice on my own and they didn't have a family.
    However, I wouldn't want to date someone with a kid and take care of them in that situation.

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  • No but im not a fan of them. Not for my own selfish reason but because a child should stay with their biological parents. It solves a lot of issues like the reason the child has a step parent to start with.

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  • I hated my step mother (made me leave my dads house to move in with my mom it was so bad) and I would hate to raise another guys kid but I imagine not all of them are bad and I just have awful luck

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  • My dad got killed when i was 4 so i could've used a step dad if i had one id probably be at a much better place in my life

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  • Only of she was out of this world would I consider even a light hearted relationship with someone who has a kid.

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  • So I can be resented by my stepchildren? No way. Then have a target on my back with their father and their mothers ex?

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  • I wouldn't want to. It seems like it would be too much drama.

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  • Only if she is widowed. No desire for baby daddy drama.

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  • If i started while they were young enough, if they considered me to be their parent.

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  • I was one

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  • Yes, I would be OK with being a step-parent

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  • I would rather have my own.

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  • I am a step parent. My step son is almost two now

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  • Underrated and underappreciated.

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  • No, are you crazy?

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  • No i wouldn't like to be one.

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  • What are they?

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  • Which question are we answering

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    • The poll is for the second question. Here you can answer either or both.

  • They're definitely overrated on pornhub

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  • Yes they are underrated

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