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Yeah. Grandma liked to paddle ME each time when I or my brother did something wrong :D In terms of educational science, Grandma was a useless nuisance; but she sure knew how to cook.I also used to get 'grounded' (house & garden allowed only).It was effective in an unexpected way: I developed a sense of 'finding the gaps in the rules' early. Grandma was soon the victim of a 12 years old 'mastermind' to her.
Ha beating the system early in life. Thanks for your input.
... and still doing so :D /// You're welcome ;)
'MHO' in return of Grandma's paddling! I KNEW it was good for something :D Thanks.
I was spanked and slapped.
Was it effective?
Yep, it’s was effective.
It was effective for me too! Thanks for your input.
You are welcome.
Spanking i can deal with and tolerate to a child smacking one no. becoming a teenager and your getting mouthy/lippy to your mom oh hell yea smack the taste out of yur mouth.
I got belt from the mother and even for situations where I did nothing wrong (she was just irritable that day). I found it completely ineffective, and by the time I was 14 or so, I was much bigger than her and just grabbed the belt out of her hand and she didn't know what to do and grounded me instead.If we're talking the harshest forms of discipline, what I found most effective for me was militaristic style of discipline excluding corporal punishment. In my private school in Japan, they used this type with teachers whistling with a bell, and we'd have to rush to get in formation and begin marching. Those who faltered behind would be disciplined by having to do things like run laps or do push-ups. I find this extremely effective, not only for me but just every kid around me. We even had pride being on our best behavior.For the most extreme punishment in that private school, I was horse playing with a boy once and inadvertently managed to injure him very badly. For that I received the punishment of having to hold buckets of water outstretched with my arms until my arms were screaming from pain, but there was no violence involved. When I finally completed my punishment, the teacher patted me on the back and I rejoined the students. I found that very effective involving no violence whatsoever (I think violence can be contagious), and it also helped to make my arms grow stronger.
Oh I know that! I've had the belt before too! Sometimes I had to go get the belt and bring it to my mom or dad. And sometimes they just took my own belt off and used it on me. I had so many marks left in me from a belt. Military style punishment can be effective for many. Seems like it had an impact on you... and gave you stronger arms! lol Thanks for your input.
Cheers! Also as a clarification, by "effective" I mean it really dissuaded me from doing similar things again, whereas by "ineffective" it was more like it made me more rebellious and defiant.
You were a completely different culture compared to American kids that most but not all has no care in the world for there fellow man or respect towards elders yet alone there mothers. unless your a crackwhore or just a flat out worthless your mom should be the one that gets the most respect.
I still can't imagine disrespecting my mom even now.
My step son at 18 does everyday yet alone respect 2 simple rules i have. respect your mom and do what your expected under my roof and he can't even do that so i kicked him out and makes up excuses for not listening to what i want. oh im tired i had school all day went to work didn't get home until 10 1045 and didn't fall asleep until 12. whos fault is that your tired not mine. i work 12hrs aday 5p to 5a come home and still take care of the house and fall asleep at 9 930a and get up at 3p.
I had quite a turbulent relationship with her, although my parents divorced. But she would invite lots of strange guys into the house, and married one who ended up stealing our family car, my prized possessions (all my video games and baseball cards, e. g.), etc. I got punished for that too since he blamed me and my sister for leaving her in a note he left explaining why he disappeared and stole our belongings, only for us to show up in divorce court without him while the police couldn't find the car that was reported stolen.As for respecting elders, I always defaulted to that position but in certain abusive kinds of cases where they constantly punish children for doing no wrong, I can't continue to give respect. At some point, they lose my respect, and I left that home to live on my own as soon as I could.What finally ended it for us is that I dated a black woman. My mother was part of this huge Baptist church that was really anti-black and anti-homosexual so she said like "black people are not like us, they don't move like us, talk like us", which I saw as really odd since she was a white woman who married Japanese, and she disowned me for continuing to date her. So I let her disown me since I wasn't even living with her by then and never contacted her again.
With just about guy she brought home who left her, she'd get upset at us and use the belt, blaming us for the guy leaving her (even when we were both really nice to him). She wasn't a very nice person. Well, she wasn't evil per se, but very weak-minded and just prone to lash and blame other people for everything.
With just about [any] guy she brought home who left her [...]
What made me defiant to my mother though was not being constantly punished for things that involved no wrongdoing on my part, but my younger sister was a lot more helpless. I could handle the belt. But I wanted to protect my sister from my mother. That's what prompted me to finally grab the belt out of her hand.
No mom is perfect
@adidas0169 Absolutely not. But there's a certain where you have to resist as I see it. It would have been immoral for me to keep my head down from my perspective. We might disagree heavily there but I don't believe in unconditional respect. It's like if I see an elderly person, he has my respect until he starts beating my wife with a cane, and then that respect is lost and I'm going to have to subdue him to get him to stop.
* certain level
@adidas0169, Of course, I would be careful not to hurt him. My intention is not to harm but to subdue -- to prevent the person from causing further harm.
@adidas0169 Even a police officer. I absolutely respect the police by default and it would be foolish and suicidal not to do so. But let us say I caught a police officer kicking an old woman on the ground and torturing her. Then I would consider it my moral duty to interfere and stop him however I can or die in trying. I'd consider it immoral to just walk away. I don't believe in unconditonal respect.
Nope I was never hit that I remember. I think mild spanks are no big deal, but beyond that physical punishment is ineffective and in some cases potentially damaging. I have heard, "you can't reason with kids" but I don't agree. I would always use words first, and add in alone time for reflection and cooling off.
I can understand that. I got out in the corner a lot as a kid to "think about what I did" according to my mom. Thanks for your input.
No bc i wasn't a bad kid. i think kids need to learn fear that if they are disrespectful or are bad they are going go get paddled. it worked for generation and to my knowledge there wasn't so many problems with kids like we have now. they knew they acted up that mom was beat them and when dad got home they got it again.
Indeed... I was paddled and given the belt many times. I remember it used to hurt so bad and I cried so hard. However it was effective in changing my behavior.
Spanked, slapped and even punched in later years but never was I struck with an object, maybe a slipper.
Thanks for your input
I was whooped, paddled, smacked upside the head, physically exhausting punishments, unable to use items like computers, video games, TV, etc. . All my being punished was effective I know better and won't do stupid things as much (usually depending on what stupid thing).
I understand that! I was paddled a lot as a kid. And it didn't even matter if my friends were there my mom would paddle me. The humiliation was enough to make me behave better. Thanks for your input.
I was never physically punished. My parents would sit me down and explain why what I did was wrong, how it affected other people and how the outcome could have been even worse etc. The guilt was very effective.
My mom did have a way of making me feel very guilty. Thanks for your input.
No I personally don’t believe in physical punishment
Yes. And it wasn't effective at all. And I do not think children should be beaten. I was more than just paddled, physically abused.
I'm sorry to hear that. Thanks for your input.
No I never got disciplined as a child
Thanks for your input. Were you just that good of a child?
Pretty much I was also the youngest of 6 so my parents let me do whatever I wanted. I was also super responsible by the time i was 5 i was staying home alone
Sounds pretty good!
Yeap but with a wooden spoon. And nope
I've had the wooden spoon used on me too.
Yeah now I have a daddy kink
Oh! A side effect of being paddled?
Yep, I have a fart fetish too
No. I wasn’t.
Thanks for your input. How were you punished if you did something?
Sent to my room. No phone or books.
Ok. Was that effective?
Mostly. Didn’t stop me from sneaking out to see my boyfriend though.
Haha that's funny
I was slapped a few times
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