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I think as you mature, your relationship with your parents gradually changes. I don’t think parents should be “friends” with their children until they reach a certain stage of maturity/life. Becoming your child’s friend too early or conversely treating them as a child for too long is a recipe for issues.My father once told me that he and I couldn’t truly be friends until I had children of my own, because I wouldn’t understand his life until then. That may be true, but we are more of friends now that I’m in my late 20s than we were when I was 18.I don’t think you can necessarily say “by this age..” or “when you are this..” person you can be friends with your parents. I think it varies just like any other relationship, but I do believe friendship should be the goal EVENTUALLY when you have children.
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Hmmm. I honestly don't know on that one. I think they should be supportive, and have family game nights and stuff like that. With my mom she is neither. I wouldn't call her a friend, or an acquaintance for that matter. She is simply just someone who I unfortunately share some blood with. My wife is my best friend. I know that there is nothing that she won't do for me. But when push came to shove with me and my mom on multiple occasions she usually maid the other choice. Not sure how helpful this was. I'm still struggling with the concept myself.
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I find it weird. I think its cute when theyre like your mini me and want to do what u do. But there's things that shouldn't be so openly discussed when theyre young. Like my mom used to try to share her sexcapades with me when i was like 16. I dont wanna hear that shit. Im not your friend. At least not in that way.
I believe parents should be both. A parent just being a authoritative figure doesn't amount to much parent-child trust. I would never ask my mother about anything too personal because I don't think of her as a friend as I would someone that I trust with personal opinion
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To an extent yes. My mother was great at being a parent. She made it clear that even though she gets to boss me around that she still loves me and cares for me feelings... my dad however if I wasn't doing chores or helping to maintain the house I was grounded. He claimed he cared but I knew he was lying. Parents who want a friendship have a completely different relationship with there kid. In my opinion being a friend and a parent helps the kid grow into a better person.
My mother abandoned me when I was 4 and I was left with my alcoholic dad who never hit me but said the worst things like saying I was a burden and what not. As an adult I feel sorry for him and I know im his best friend who knows his dark secrets but still love him unconditionally. Its good and healthy for me to be his friend as an adult hate will bring me nothing but emptiness. If you have a good relationship with your parents of course you should be friends when you become an adult.
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It happens we struggle but enjoy the simple things in life more :)
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abso-fricking not.friends know your most embarrassing secrets and a parent or a teacher can never abandon their role "of guiding you by lecturing you'' like a normal friend of your age does.
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i mean mine have been my friends for the past 19 years. i am mostly open with them and to them about pretty much everything. if there s anyone that won t judge you and be by your side , it s probably them. unless they are utter pieces of fecal matter , as it is the case for many kids/people nowadays
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Yea they can be and it's good to have that relationship with them especially when you get older but it's also good to keep in mind respect for them too
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I think definitely they should try to and want to be your friend but if they aren't trustworthy they may not be fit for the role as friend.
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Only after being your parents first! :)
Yes. But not the BFF kinda friends. Parents are good folks to converse with but not tell your secrets, for obvious reasons.
No. They are in a role of authority when growing up. Friends is crossing the barriers so respect can easily be lost.
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They should be your friends definitely. Of course they have to be the parent first, taking care of you, giving you advise. But there will be days where you can just hang around, do nothing together and that makes them a friend. Me and my parents can joke around like friends. But when push comes to shove they become parents and that's wonderful
Yes, but parents first, friends second. They have a role and a duty as your parent that supercedes a friendly relationship
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Only after you hit 25. And even then they should be parents first and friends second.
My mom is my best friends. Life is beautiful this way. A friend that will never let you down like everybody does nowadays.
No, they are not my friends and probably never will. It might work for some but not all.
No. Your either the parent or the friend. That boundary needs to be clear.
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Yes. My mom is my friend, but also a strong mother figure. She knows how to balance it and when to be each. It allows me to confide in her and tell her things I normally would not if I didn't think she was open to anything.
Yes, I believe so though my parents were never friendly, however, they were caring.
With my son I try to balance between the two. I want him to be able to talk to me and tell me things but still respect me as a dad.
Parents should not be friends. You should love and respect them, but the have to discipline you which friends cannot do.
My mom is my friend, why because she my everything, she loves me to bits and I love her!
Not really. I don't believe in friends. I believe in Family. and Everyone that i care for is family to me. Blood or not.
Totally yes !!! Hanging out with them is fun and pleasant !
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not if they are trying to govern a child's life. it wouldn't be possible.
Yes. But only to a point. They still have to be parents
They can be parents and friends at the same time, so yes.
I see my parents also as my friends. <3
They should be friendly but also when it come to discipline that’s another story.
Yess definitely my mom is my best friend 😊😊
With each other? Yes. With you? No.
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Ofcourse! They are. Always and will be.
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Yeah ! 👍
My mom is my best friend. She is the only one who is consistently there for me.
Since I’m an adult, yes. As a child, no way.
Lol well said. 👍
Thank you! Parents are supposed to guide their children.
They shoukd be once i got out of their house
Yes, to a certain extent.
I believe my late Mom was my Friend
Yes. But there has to be a limit
My parents actually have friends my age.
They are my best friends
Absolutely they been there and back
Not sure. I can't see my parents as friends.
It depends. For me yes. My mom is my best friend.
Yes i do
Yes and no.
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