For those of you who never wanted kids, but changed your mind after you got married, what changed your mind?

[Anonymous]

My entire life, I’ve never wanted kids. You name a reason people may not want kids, and it’s likely on my list, and then some. I don’t dislike kids. My career actually revolves around kids and I love it, but have just never desired my own children.

Has anyone ever been in this situation, but once they found the right partner, they changed their mind? If that’s the case, how do you know if it’s really you changing your mind or if you’re just doing it because you love your partner who really wants kids?

Updates:

[JudgmentDay]

That whole "finding a right partner" thing is all random and not a guarantee. Some people stop looking and gave up on looking for a partner for a significant amount of time such as years or decades. So clearly it won't happen for those batch of people. Includes myself. I don't look and if someone asks me they wouldn't want to know the real me. If there's anything now, because this global pandemic and how I see the true colors of humankind and how they treat each other, it actually reinforces my antinatalist views and outlook substantially more than ever before. There does not need to more people and new people added into this kind of a world, this kind of species and this kind of a society and all it's various systems. So nope, my mind's never changed because the negativity and bad in this reality far exceeds any of the good that there is it makes much more sense to not have children and making it more possible for new and additional people to experience suffering and pain, and then for them to also die one day just like how the rest of us all will inevitably.

[Anonymous]

Not wanting kids was never a problem for me. I took care of a lot of kids and I loved every single of those kids. Kids are fun to be around. I also took care of them when they were sick too. Kids always gave me a purpose and made me feel needed. And if you happen to be lucky enough to have kids and you love them treat them right, chances are there will always be someone there for when you get older and you don't have to die alone.

[SaiyenBloodd]

I didn’t want kids then when I met my ex he kinda influenced me on my opinion and I inheritly was ok having kids but now we are not together... I don’t want my own kids... I’ve always wanted to adopt

[Unit1]

Beats me

[jimmy2]

Its inbred into us. it come from the Bible go forth and multiply