I’m 32 years old and my family clearly has problems I’ve advised them to get help before there’s no contact with my children , I, or them unfortunately it’s headed towards that
Listen to me carefully. There is no point in telling an individual to get help because if they wanted to get healthy would do so themselves. It would not need other people to do it for them. Sometimes a lot of people know that they're not psychologically correcting in mine and because of that reason they rather pretend to know that they're normal when they're not normal. And then there are times when a person is normal, they just don't care about you. Or they may actually care, but then the problem is that when you're dealing with the wrong kind of people, they want to try to make you crazy at them. And then the next thing you know you becoming the very thing that you say that you hate. You should not have to tell them no more than three times. When you don't put your foot down immediately they will just continue to do it and it will just get worse. Just do it right now, no questions asked.
Not psychologically correct in their head*
They loose access to me and their grandkids
Then so be it. Remember that you're the one that had said that if they don't change then that's what's going to happen. How long you going to continue to keep waiting for them to do what they got to do unless you do what you have to do. There comes a point in time sometimes you just got to leave it in God's hands, continue to pray oh, and leave it that way. Because of you continue to keep allowing yourself to go through that it's bad enough you already have children, everything is going on with you is going to continue to affect your children. And who is more important? Your comfort or your children? I'm not a mother. I never been in a relationship, I'm a virgin, I never got myself into those situations. But one thing I do know about is growing up in a dysfunctional household and being around with dysfunctional people. And I'm at a point in my life why I always been at a point where even I have to make my own sacrifices. And that includes family. They may be blood, and you don't choose your family oh, but you do get to choose what kind of life you want to live. Because you only got one and life is too short. And if they don't understand that, then again, you choose whatever life you want to live. But not when you have children who deserves to live.
Yes I’m harsh sometimes when overstepped a lot. I get tired of repeating
u know, i can draw a boundary right now in chalk on da floor and say no one can step across. but if they do and there are no major ramifications, whats 2 stop them from doing it again? but say i got a sledgehammer, and i bash them over the head if they step over. and they fall down on the floor bleeding and crying out in pain while i drag their crying body outside the chalk boundary. now they prob won't do it again
u gotta be harsh just after they step over one time. u gotta be predictable. and i dont mean doing what i said literally. dats a hyperbole. but u gotta carry urself in a way where people at least suspect that crossing da boundary once is gonna lead 2 regrets
if ur boundaries are drawn in black rather than grey, u know what they are advance. u dont have to ask questions as to whether it is permitted or not. then u will be more predictable, and when ur more predictable, other people will be do. im guessing u are still asking questions. ur boundaries are not drawn clearly. they fuzzy
We’re talking about grown people who have controlling problems I’ve advised my family to get help
might just gotta get rid of those at some point, or take an extended vacation. with family they used 2 u all da way since childhood. if u werent a rebel early on, they will prob think they can say and do whatever and picture u still as the kid who couldnt protect her boundaries
Yes TooDrunk4Sex they need help/ they see me as a kid. Unfortunately I’m grown
Yep it’s controlling
Thats cool but your strong you got this
Thanks for the MHO
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