Omg you sounds like me... I used to stick money in my sister in law's ashtray in car cuz she and her husband didn't smoke... So before she'd get home, I'd leave a message on her home answering machine..."check your ashtray" and then just not answer my phone for couple hours 🤣🤣
Lol, I have done similar things. I just like to give it my all before asking for help. My dad always told me that he couldn't help me if I couldn't help myself.
True words there
Sometimes I see like a mom struggling with her kids behind me in a drive-thru and I pay for their food. I ask the person at the window to stall them long enough for me to ghost before they make it out of the drive-thru.
Aww that's sweet
Let me edit my first sentenceThe question is whether people are refusing when you ask for help or whether you aren't asking for help.
That sounds just like me... All my life I've heard how strong I am, but I'm human and have my weak moments too
Ahhh yes someone who understands! It’s really tough when everyone has that kind of expectation from you. But look at it this way - we must be really strong individuals for our friends to depend on us and see us this way.
Or good at "faking it" 🤣
What about when it's friends and family
I dont do friends and i hardly trust family. Im used to my mom/grandma/grandpa veing ungrateful. They see me being 21+ as my time to pay them bacj for all theyve done. They feel they dont have to do much anymore and it annoys me
Yeah that sucks
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I hear you and agree
Glad you're getting there...
But do you think some women have had the same experience where men were involved? USERS come in all shapes, and sizes, and oh yeah, gender...
It’s the princess syndrome. That’s the problem.
And what do you call it then when men use women the same way 🤔 not every question/post is meant for people to gender bash... Isn't there already enough posts that do that...
I know I really didn’t want to gender bash. But I have yet to encounter a woman is 100% selfless. I’ve met a few who are close to it but not the same way a true male buddy would be. Not even close. I don’t think women can help it. Their brains are wired differently. But there is something very disgusting about how they want “male platonic friends”. That’s usually a one way street. I have been friends with one girl for 15 years. I used to think she was different than most girls. A hippy but genuine. But she got in a divorce 5 years ago and she said something about her ex husband that I’ll never forget “Jimmy is a good man but NOT a alpha”. Now she is dating a married man (who has a kid). This has been going on for two years. I told her that is not going to end well and is very wrong. She said “I have no excuse for it. But I have such strong feelings for him”. That’s the crap I’m talking about. I know not ever girl is like that example. But how women generally get away with disgusting crap because of their “feelings”. Guys don’t, never will nor should have that excuse to do something stupid because of “feelings”. Our society needs to start holding women to the same standard it holds men when it comes to that bullshit.
That's great... And yeah my pride and stubbornness keeps me from asking for help most times
That's good they changed
You said it there..
Right they can only really be helped if they used the help to help themselves
Yeah, I'm used to being the one helping everyone else..
Exactly! Not that that's why help others... But sometimes would have someone I could count on as well
You can count on your king miss brains muffins which is ME 🤴🏻
I can see how that would have that effect but everyone needs an emotional release sometime
Of course. I don't blame them. I just wish that the people who I provide with that kind of support would afford me the same opportunity once in awhile.
Oh I hear you!!! Know exactly what you mean
I know you do
You know, i read this question wrongBest sample i can give. I help my son-in-law with anything. But when I want his help he tells me to fuck off
Yeah know that feeling minus the fuck off cuz my kids know they ever spoke to me like that their teeth would be down their throat permanently
Trust me. He got a fist to the face and I vowed to never help him again
My kids still apologize if they say even shit around me... Even tho I can have a potty mouth myself lolol
My kids don't either. But this guy is my daughter's pOS of a husband
Right! I had someone do that to me when I couldn't afford to keep helping them and they weren't using the help to help themselves... Told lies about me and talked plenty shit
For me it's not not feeling deserving, more pride that keeps me from easily accepting help from others
Well that too, I guess ^^
The "fair weather friends" ...
@Brainsbeforebeauty Yeah for sure I agreeI help take care of my cousin's Maltese while she is sick and she does my laundry now thatis how people should act
Right help one another
It can be draining and exhausting to be in those seasons but feeling good when I'm able to help others is good too
Thank you mam.Have a great day and take care of yourself and your family.☺️☺️
Thank you... You as well
Oh and I almost forgot, it's very difficult for me to set boundaries with people so it makes things worse.
That's good 👍
How about yourself? You seem to post from experience.
Sometimes, sometimes my questions are hypothetical, sometimes from the stupid crap I see on here 🤣 but yeah, I seem to help people too much sometimes
Too much is better than too little. But both can be problems.
I give too much and get too little... But it is what it is.. It's called life 🤷🏼♀️
Hear yah there
Yeah sometimes alone isn't so bad
I don't either but it would be nice to once get help when I need it, everyone needs help at some point in their life
It's not no dance
Who said dance 🤔
Me I did 👽🖖
Confusing me again lololol
Yeah just how i like it, partially perplexed, in semi detached way?
Lololol or just a blonde moment lolol
Most gals act blonde at some point I must just be that good
Are you tho 🤔🤔😂
I am and I could prove it if I stop saying how obssesd I am with pussy, they think I'm lying or not single I think
Or don't want to be a freak like me
Women can be freaks too you know
Yeah well I might make it happen anyways lol
Seems that way sometimes don't it
Hmm Did that happen to you
Yeah guess I am too
Yeah I do that a lot
Yeah only gets to me once in a while and usually only if I've been really sick
Nother trait you get from your adopted momma 🤣🤣
Hey could be worse, you could've inherited my big ugly feet but my oldest daughter did 🤣🤣
Lmao. I prefer this quality. I have pretty feet🤣
😥 sure brag you got pretty feet 😭😭
Aww💞💞 I'm sure they aren't that bad💞
Nothing at the moment... Just feel like always help others but when I really need, noone around
Yeah I hear yah.. Me too
But always will try to help others, give and don't expect something back :) when you gove kindness you get positive energy by yourself
Well that's good then
Same here 🤷🏼♀️
I hear yah
I feel yah
To make it clear, I help others because I choose to and I don’t expect them to help me because I know most people won’t go out of their way to help.
Same.. and I have trouble swallowing my pride and accepting help, but just the offer would be nice
Yeah I get it. You’ll find people who will offer help. They’re a minority but they’re always appreciated.
Well that's good