What does childbirth feel like?

Question

I'm a childfree-by-choice woman, never been pregnant much less had to think of what childbirth was like. I have a new writing project and may have to describe a birthing scene (a first for me to write) and wanted as many perspectives as possible. Natural birth only - no Caesarians please, sorry. And please let me know if you were administered anything to relieve the pain before and/or after.

The question is mainly for the ladies, but if any men have any input on what their wives or girlfriends went through, or what you felt as a man if you were involved in the birthing process, I would love to read what you have to say too. Thanks, everyone!

Answer 1

TinCanJim

Xper 2

I can imagine that it hurts but not nearly as much as getting kicked in the nuts. Women will say things like, "As a man you will never understand how painful childbirth is." Well, as a woman, you will never understand how painful it is to be kicked in the balls. Let me put it in perspective. A woman will say how painful child birth is but within a couple years they will say, "I want to have another baby." I have been kicked in the balls and I have never, ever asked for it to happen again. Ever. Imagine the following conversation.

Guy: Remember that time when you kicked in the balls and I almost vomited?"
Girl: Yes.
Guy: I think it brought us closer as a couple. Would you please kick me in my junk again?"
Girl: Are you serious?
Guy: Of course I'm serious. I think smashing my nads would be a magical and wonderful experience for us.
Girl: But you were seriously hurt.
Guy: I love you. If you really loved me and cared about us, you would mangle my testicles.

No, this would never happen... not in a hundred million years.

Gisellealphababe

1 mo
Your mother should’ve swallowed you.
OvernightDemon23

1 mo
You stated the truth correctly, the only dislike you are getting come from the lack of perspective.
TinCanJim

1 mo
Gisellealphababe... First of all, to include my mother in an insult directed at me shows how abundantly ignorant you are. Secondly, I can only hope that this is your preferred method of birth control. Finally, get a sense of humor.
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Gisellealphababe

1 mo
There was seriously nothing humorous about you downplaying childbirth.
TinCanJim

30 d
There was nothing humorous about your insulting comments.
TinCanJim

28 d
Wow... this just got selected as the most helpful answer. Hahaha. Haters gonna hate.
Gisellealphababe

28 d
It’s a pity MHO.

Answer 2

Gisellealphababe

Your mother should’ve swallowed you.

Answer 3

OvernightDemon23

You stated the truth correctly, the only dislike you are getting come from the lack of perspective.

Answer 4

TinCanJim

Gisellealphababe... First of all, to include my mother in an insult directed at me shows how abundantly ignorant you are. Secondly, I can only hope that this is your preferred method of birth control. Finally, get a sense of humor.

Answer 5

Gisellealphababe

There was seriously nothing humorous about you downplaying childbirth.

Answer 6

TinCanJim

There was nothing humorous about your insulting comments.

Answer 7

TinCanJim

Wow... this just got selected as the most helpful answer. Hahaha. Haters gonna hate.

Answer 8

Gisellealphababe

It’s a pity MHO.

Answer 9

Apope16 | 72 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Guru

I was once on a date with a female medical doctor. She focused on treating pregnant women. She said that having a baby feels a lot like taking the biggest shit of your life. except it is coming from the front.

Answer 10

Elsa143 | 67 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Explorer

I heard it from my aunt that it feels like you'll pass out because of the pain and when the water breaks it's the worst part. In the worst cases, you can get diabetes and then you have to go for C-section to prevent the baby from getting diabetes. That C-Section left a permanent scar and weak point in my mom's area and she can't jump and it still hurts if she gets accidentally hit there even slightly.

I'll also be childless by choice forever. I hate this pregnancy shit. I was never fond of pregnancies. I never admired this concept and never will. Biology is VERY UNFAIR to women.

Elsa143

30 d
Tough choices for women. 1. Either endure the crushing pain of labor or C-Section which is also not less. It causes permanent damage.
Elsa143

29 d
No man will ever convince me to get pregnant. I'll just throw him away if he tries to tell me what to do with my body. 😡 this pregnancy is like unconditional love because women do it for the sake of their partner but in return women are told "He doesn't owe you anything, you're not entitled to his loyalty, you don't have a right to know everything about his life, you can't be clingy , he got his own life and can't prioritize you". So then why the hell he is entitled to demand something life crushing from his girl?

Answer 11

Elsa143

Tough choices for women. 1. Either endure the crushing pain of labor or C-Section which is also not less. It causes permanent damage.

Answer 12

Elsa143

No man will ever convince me to get pregnant. I'll just throw him away if he tries to tell me what to do with my body. 😡 this pregnancy is like unconditional love because women do it for the sake of their partner but in return women are told "He doesn't owe you anything, you're not entitled to his loyalty, you don't have a right to know everything about his life, you can't be clingy , he got his own life and can't prioritize you". So then why the hell he is entitled to demand something life crushing from his girl?

Answer 13

Anonymous

As a healthcare worker, I think I can answer this.

Did you know that in some cases, your vagina can tear? The worst case I saw was with an 11 pound baby. It tore almost all the way to her anus.

A lot of women also poop.

Ozanne

1 mo
Yes, I've heard of such things. Yikes! My best friend had a hard time after two children and said that reconstruction of her vagina, has left her with what she calls Frankengina. She is upset that it looks the way it does now.
insatiable_curiosity

30 d
So true! As someone who has delivered babies, I concur.
Opinion Owner

28 d
I also want to mention that contractions feel like someone is stabbing you.

Answer 14

Ozanne

Yes, I've heard of such things. Yikes! My best friend had a hard time after two children and said that reconstruction of her vagina, has left her with what she calls Frankengina. She is upset that it looks the way it does now.

Answer 15

insatiable_curiosity

So true! As someone who has delivered babies, I concur.

Answer 16

Opinion Owner

I also want to mention that contractions feel like someone is stabbing you.

Answer 17

anexi

Xper 4

Lol @ all the men whose comments have absolutely nothing to do with actual experiences. Fuckin stupid 😂😂

I have never gone through childbirth personally, but I was in the room while my sister delivered her third child. She tried to go through the delivery without anesthesia, but at the last minute she broke and demanded painkiller immediately. Right after the anesthesia was administered, the baby fell out. And I mean FELL out. The doctor was not even in the room yet, and the nurses did not believe my sister when she said the baby was coming IMMEDIATELY. The nurse just barely caught the baby.

I was there the entire time holding her hand and fanning her, being utterly disgusted by the entire process. 0/10 do not recommend.

anexi

29 d
Oh, I read what she put. Nothing you have said has had anything to do with your wife or girlfriend or even a family member going through childbirth. It's all about how you get blocked because you're being a trolling jackass.

Funny how you think childbirth is comparable to getting kicked in the gonads.

Fuck outta here, man. Don't nobody give a fuck what an ignorant dope like you has to say.
Ozanne

29 d
No, KingChris, no one likes what you have to say because you're being rude. It's against terms of service to create duplicate accounts. (There's a drop down in Report for "duplicate".) And it's against the terms of service to harass. (There's a drop down in Report for "harassment".) You're doing both, and yes, I reported both of your accounts. So just stop already. You're blocked. Move on.

Answer 18

anexi

Oh, I read what she put. Nothing you have said has had anything to do with your wife or girlfriend or even a family member going through childbirth. It's all about how you get blocked because you're being a trolling jackass.

Funny how you think childbirth is comparable to getting kicked in the gonads.

Fuck outta here, man. Don't nobody give a fuck what an ignorant dope like you has to say.

Answer 19

Ozanne

No, KingChris, no one likes what you have to say because you're being rude. It's against terms of service to create duplicate accounts. (There's a drop down in Report for "duplicate".) And it's against the terms of service to harass. (There's a drop down in Report for "harassment".) You're doing both, and yes, I reported both of your accounts. So just stop already. You're blocked. Move on.

Answer 20

MORPHEUS_12 | 55 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Guru

My husband and I of 22, years are childless by choice and I would like to add that when I was growing up it was said that local teaching hospitals treated unwed, teen Mother's and the poor the same. It was said that the hospital purposefully didn't give these Mother's as much pain control so that they could fully experience the full pain of natural childbirth in hopes of making them understand their poor choices in life. As I child/teen I thought how horrible that must have been and that it couldn't be true until I was older and heard others mention the practice as well.

Answer 21

Apple1996 | 455 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

Pushing the baby out is the easy part. The contractions are what makes everything super painful. With my first I ended up pushing him out while in the middle of getting a epidural cause they thought I needed a c section. The epidural had to be ripped out immediately so I got no pain meds. With my second I got a epidural at 7cm. I was extremely nauseous and puked for hours which sucked cause I couldnt move. Next baby I'm planning on having it at home so I dont gotta deal with the hospital nonsense.

Answer 22

SavageGirl101 | 50 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Xper 7

I love all the men in the comments saying “it’s not that bad” when y’all will never experience anything like that get out of a women’s business seriously

KingChris08

1 mo
I love how people asks questions that doesn’t have to do with both men and women. Just like this one. Is it really that hard to choose “girls” or “men” on here? Men will never know what childbirth feels like so why are we even allowed to share our opinions
Hangry22

1 mo
@KingChris08 the asker clearly said guys can answer if they have input on what their girlfriend or wife had gone through. Guess some people don't like to read
Yuuibtony

1 mo
It funny u said get out of your business when this comment is by a female sending it towards both males and females wanting to comment on here
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SavageGirl101

1 mo
@KingChris08 nobody cares so that paragraph was a waste
SavageGirl101

1 mo
@Yuuibtony and u think I care because?
KingChris08

1 mo
@Hangry22 “the asker clearly said guys can answer if they have input on what their girlfriend or wife went through. Guess some people don’t like to read” I don’t like reading but I read that pretty well. How are men supposed to know what women during childbirth? Lol
Gisellealphababe

1 mo
Bunch of fkn incels 😂
KingChris08

1 mo
@SavageGirl101 You care that’s why you replied to my comment that you apparently don’t care about
SavageGirl101

1 mo
@Kingchris I don’t care about your comment or worthless opinions 🤪so keep talking to air😌have a nice day 😘
SavageGirl101

1 mo
@Gisellealphababe exactlyyyyy they just mad and hurt that I’m right 🥰
KingChris08

1 mo
@SavageGirl101 if you don’t care then stop replying to my comments and nothing I say or do is worthless
Hangry22

1 mo
@kingchris08 she meant any experiences a a guy witnessed when his girlfriend or wife was in labour with pain. Or what his girlfriend or wife may have described
Yuuibtony

1 mo
I do not get how it non of our business when this woman allow men to comment
SavageGirl101

1 mo
@Yuuibtony says the one who commented about how flat a womens chest is🤣goodbye your opinion is very much irrelevant
SavageGirl101

1 mo
@KingChris07 not u making another account just to still say worthless shit?😭 Lol blockeddd again
Ozanne

30 d
To: @KingChris08 regarding your original response to this opinion, @Hangry22 is correct. I wanted to get perspectives of what childbirth is like from both men and women. The women who are obviously the ones birthing can describe it, but I also wanted to know from the men's perspective of what they went through if they were in the delivery room. I thought that was clear: "... what you felt as a man if you were involved in the birthing process, I would love to read what you have to say too."

My topic consisted of six sentences. This was the fifth sentence out of six. I'm sorry if that was too difficult for you.
Unit1

14 d
" love all the men in the comments saying “it’s not that bad” when y’all will never experience anything like that"

I understand now why some women really hate men. And I don't blame women one bit for it. And I'm no feminist.
SavageGirl101

14 d
@Unit1 lol ikr

Answer 23

KingChris08

I love how people asks questions that doesn’t have to do with both men and women. Just like this one. Is it really that hard to choose “girls” or “men” on here? Men will never know what childbirth feels like so why are we even allowed to share our opinions

Answer 24

Hangry22

@KingChris08 the asker clearly said guys can answer if they have input on what their girlfriend or wife had gone through. Guess some people don't like to read

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