Is it reasonable for a guy to regularly hang out with a girl (who likes him a lot) without telling her he doesn’t want anything more than friendship?

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Like going to the cinema, museums, walks, cafes, dinners, holidays etc.

Yes that’s fine

No that’s not fair on her

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Answer 1

RyzaStout

Xper 5

Men and women can be friends but if she likes you as more than a friend and you haven't told her how you feel, then that's going to hurt her in the long run. Just be honest about how you feel and don't string her along.

Asker

18 d
But it’s not like I’m flirting with her or anything?
RyzaStout

18 d
But does she know you don't like her as more than a friend? If she doesn't know that then she may think you're flirting regardless of if you actually are or not.
Asker

18 d
Really? Just by seeing her every week?
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RyzaStout

18 d
Yeah possibly
Asker

18 d
But if I tell her I only want friendship, she might not want to see me as much.
RyzaStout

18 d
That's a possibility but it will be her choice to if she can carry on the friendship knowing she can't be romantic with you. You could tell her how you feel and also tell her you don't want anything to change because you like her friendship. At the end of the day, it's your choice what you do or don't tell her. Try imagining you were in her situation and think about how you'd feel. Or perhaps imagine your best friend came to you with this problem, what would you tell them?

Answer 2

Asker

But it’s not like I’m flirting with her or anything?

Answer 3

RyzaStout

But does she know you don't like her as more than a friend? If she doesn't know that then she may think you're flirting regardless of if you actually are or not.

Answer 4

Asker

Really? Just by seeing her every week?

Answer 5

RyzaStout

Yeah possibly

Answer 6

Asker

But if I tell her I only want friendship, she might not want to see me as much.

Answer 7

RyzaStout

That's a possibility but it will be her choice to if she can carry on the friendship knowing she can't be romantic with you. You could tell her how you feel and also tell her you don't want anything to change because you like her friendship. At the end of the day, it's your choice what you do or don't tell her. Try imagining you were in her situation and think about how you'd feel. Or perhaps imagine your best friend came to you with this problem, what would you tell them?

Is it reasonable for a guy to regularly hang out with a girl (who likes him a lot) without telling her he doesn’t want anything more than friendship?

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