Is being a mother a privilege or responsibility?

[Massageman]

Both, of course.

(47) And that servant who knew his master's will, and did not prepare himselfor do according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. (48) But he who did not know, yet committed things deserving of stripes, shall be beaten with few. For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more. Luke 12:47-48The evil servants fail in their responsibility because they are not looking faithfully to Christ and hopefully toward the Kingdom. Faithless Christians will be judged more strictly than those who, though wicked, do not understand about the coming of the Son of Man. Professing Christians with knowledge of God's revelation will have to answer for their lack of response to God.

Their punishment seems severe until we realize that the servant who knew his master's will represents those who sin arrogantly or presumptuously. All have some knowledge of God (Romans 1:20-23), and He judges according to the individual's level of responsibility.

The parable finishes with the warning that knowledge and privilege always bring responsibility.

And then there is always Peter Parker's (Spiderman's) Uncle Ben: "With great power comes great responsibility ". What greater power could a woman have than to be able to birth a new human! Awesome power- big responsibility!

[TheorionMage]

In a word, "BOTH".

IF your child is both healthy and normal, count yourself 'blessed';
this 'budding' human learns foremost by its firsthand experiences of YOU,
most new parents reflect on what THEY missed MOST from THEIR upbringing
... seeking either to live UP TO or to NOT repeat THEIR OWN parent's nurturing!

[luckyinloveandlife]

Most women on this particular thread sound entirely too self absorbed to be loving mothers and wives. Being a mother is a blessing, gift, responsibility and the greatest privilege that exists for husband and wife. People view babies as a chore, because they have sex with whomever and don’t actually give a shit about their sexual partner, therefore lack the ability to love that child the way they are intended to be loved. When my husband and I go through pregnancy and have our child, that baby will have the absolute best of both of their father and mother as parents. They will be raised in a home where they get to see what true love and marriage between a man and woman looks like, and will develop into a wonderful human being. They will know love, right and wrong, and family. The way it is intended to be for every child born to a couple.

[btbc92]

Being a mother is a responsibility foremost! A mother may be a privilege for those who cannot afford to be a mother, just like a home is a privilege for some. A privilege is something that isn't just given and very few ever make it to have it, as it is what most not only want but is a need. In poor countries, food, clothes, water, shelter, and even hearing the gospel is a privilege. It is practically easy to become a mother, but not everybody is a mother simply by being, but doing what a mother should do, which can be both taught and learned as each child and challenge is different for everybody.

Many want to be mothers. You just don't want just anybody fathering your children.

[Graciegirl61]

Both! It is their duty to take care of a child they have produced given the circumstances, it can be classed as a privilege to give birth to such a precious thing and help them grow in the world we are in today. Some kids suffer due to parents giving up with the responsibility, it's a shame.

[Hypnos0929]

Both.
Just because you have a child doesn't make you a mother, and just because you're less likely to be a deadbeat doesn't mean you can't become worse than one.
Children are your responsibility to raise correctly. They aren't house slaves or dolls or heirlooms

[AdithyaR]

I'd say it's a mix of both and also a choice.
A woman can choose whether she wants to be a mother or not.
If she chooses it, it is both a privilege and a responsibility. A privilege because a mother is probably the most treasured individual in a lot of people's lives and it's a gift to be one.
It's a responsibility because this child is now your responsibility, along with the father's responsibility of course.

[Steve1071]

As a privilege you get to carry and develop a new life. As a responsibility you have to nurture and imprint your values, experiences and most importantly your affection on the child. Being a mother isn’t a mandatory obligation it’s a choice from your actions. But the title of mom is a gift that gets larger over time. I hoped that helped.

[JayisI]

Both, depending upon who you are. Because some people have miscarriages several times before being able to have a kid and of course no matter what its a responsibly, i mean you have a kid that depends on everything you do for them

[DanaeAdam5]

It's a mix of both.

You get to bring life into this world, and watch it grow but there will be times when you will be tired, mad and feel like giving up.

But the problem is that you can't. You took the responsibility of raising a kid.

[JuneLady]

Both, I would say. Similar to most good men having the desire to provide for a family, most good women find a delight in taking the responsibility of motherhood, even with the massive costs that come with it. In a way, taking any kind of responsibility is the highest privilege you can attain to

[Anonymous]

It is both, obviously. Young, immature women tend to focus on the responsibility, because that is the easy and fashionable thing to do. Older women tend to focus on the privilege because they have the maturity, experience and wisdom to understand what children bring to their lives, in ways a father cannot personally experience.

Children are the ultimate privilege to a parent, but especially to a mother.

[Lanabear119]

It’s just a responsibility, not a privilege. Not every woman wants to be pregnant and have kids. Women don’t always choose to get pregnant, like if they were raped and got pregnant that way. It wouldn’t be a privilege. Or you needed some extra money to stay alive, so you had sex with men to earn some, but got pregnant. That wouldn’t be a privilege.

[ayomanwya]

It’s just a responsibility. “Oh it’s a privilege cause not all women can get pregnant” blah blah blah. Is it still a privilege if you never wanted to get pregnant and you never wanted to have kids. Is it a privilege if a girl got pregnant by a rapist? I don’t think so

[gaygod_19]

Depends on the situation. If the mother is homeless, cold, hungry with an infant who is malnourished that she doesn't even wanted to have... that wouldn't be considered as a privilege.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Both, in the sense that it's a privilege to become a mother because many can't, and that it's not your responsibility to become a mother but once you are one that is your primary responsibility

[Anonymous]

I am a very soon to be mother. And my perspective is both. I am still very young (20) and having this amazing baby blessing was not intentional, i had done what I could to prevent pregnancy in the first place, but that was not was written for me. She very much felt like an overweighing responsibility in the beginning, but as time went on, my heart softened and I realized I was extremely lucky and privileged to bring her into my world and teach her what she'll need to know and be the mother I wish i had. Many of my friends cannot conceive so in a way she will be their daughter too.

[Wonderer89]

It’s both. It’s a privilege not everyone has to be able to have a child (biological or otherwise) but there is a lot of responsibility not everyone takes seriously to nurture them into respectful and self sufficient adults

[MCheetah]

... Both? Not all women get to be mothers, and the human species' survival depends on men and women making babies together.

[Andres77]

Both.
Just like being a Dad.
I cherish the time I have with my kids and stress for their well being constantly.

[Elsa143]

Probably hell. I don't want to be valued just because I took care of someone emotionally, mentally and financially. I don't want that burden. I know my worth so no need to get that prestigious label by having kids.

[Egirl28]

I think it's both. Its a privilege to be able to have a child and you have a responsibility to provide that child with love!

[offendedsorbet]

Its both. Obviously you are responsible for that child and some people can't have children easily or at all so in that sense it is a privilege to be able to mother someone

[jshm2]

Neither. It's a task, you can be good or bad at regardless of how you feel about it.

[Scarecrow13]

I think it may be a little of both but the responsibility part cannot be understated. I think too many do not take it serious enough. We need to encourage good parenting.

[ManHater]

Having kids should be a privilege and a responsibility but unfortunately men and women have kids without even considering the child they are bringing into the world.

[jasco]

I feel like its both, because not everyone can have kids and who knows if another virus were to hit us and it be worse then the current one you ladies might need to start having more kids but yea

[lightbulb27]

both

definitely a responsibility first because the kids need mom and dad for like 18+ years. you can think privilege when you are 50+ and they are out on their own.

but what would I know?

[loveslongnails]

Why isn't it both? The privilege of being a mother wears off quickly - the responsibility lasts much longer.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Both.
My mother escaped her responsability, so now I deny her the privilege of a son who loves her.
She suffers, I don't care.

[sheikalana]

Both. You have the privilege of being the mother of a an amazing human being but you also have the responsibility to raise them.

[HikerDude]

Both. Women who try to compete with men have lost all perspective on who and what they are. Women have something to offer the world that is so special that they demean that gift when they even compare themselves to us.

[chriscdi]

can be both, can be either one or it can be neither

[In_Trance]

Depends; did you plan it or rawdog a stranger one time when you were lit up?

[dragoblack]

Responsibility. Almost any woman can birth a child but not all can properly take care of the physical and mental upbringing of one

[itsjustlew]

It depends on if you want kids, for me it would be a responsibility but for another woman who wants kids really badly it would be a privilege

[Jayla2000]

It's a privilege to become a parent, but once you become one it is a responsibility to be the best parent to your child you possibly can.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think it is both a privilege and a responsibility but mostly all the mothers I know are happy they had children.

[Anjali100]

I think it’s both and as I’m not mother yet but I really want kids and want to be mother very soon

[SavageGirl101]

Its a responsibility and headache cause there's no privilege in pushing a baby outta your pussy and suffering the consequences and pain from it😂

[Avgbrisbaneguy]

Definitely both. Unfortunately most don’t see it that way anymore

[OddBeMe]

Depends on the mothers view. I think most mothers are “put upon”. As kids they don’t get educated about sex and so get pregnant. Then don’t really like parenting. And their child does the same thing.

[Alexa703]

I think it’s both cause if your on responsible you lose the privilege of raising the child.

[modeve]

Both, privilege and responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and it's nice to see a woman for a change who is honest enough to acknowledge the privilege that comes with her motherhood.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Both are applicable to the Nth degree.

[Angelina25]

Both tbh.
But the responsibility is too much

[Anonymous]

Being a mother is just a title. I will give my children to my mother-in-law when I become a mother in the future. She will take care of it. I don't like dealing with children.

[misanthropistkev]

Neither it’s a thankless burden that sticks with you the rest of your life children supplant us

[Shihab-91]

Both... Raising the new generation is a great task and great tasks mean great responsibilities

[Emperorxxxemilio]

A privilege? No. Anybody can be a mother. A responsibility? A huge yes. Not everybody is capable of being a mother.

[BlckGrl]

Without a doubt, both

[Pink6o6]

It's both a privilage and responsibility.

[AdrielisDying1980]

Both. And its a gift!

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Neither, being a mother is a mistake.

[Agape93]

For me it would have been a curse.

[Skankhunt]

Both. Not every woman can have a baby.

[RingOfFire]

Neither. It's a right given to you by God.

[AmeerX]

It is supposed to be both.

[bklynbadboy1]

Definitely a privilege

[KrakenAttackin]

It is an enormous privilege and responsibility.

[srijitdutta]

It's a privileged responsibility

[Waldoe]

it is BOTH... its not a zero sum game

[Flower7]

It's more of a responsibility than a privilege.