Is it true men feel self conscious going out with a large lady?

A friend of mine told me he wouldn't feel that comfortable going out with a big girl because, even if he liked her, he would feel like other men would judge. He said men don't like thinking that way because they would obviously love their gf but deep down they want to have a gorgeous looking slim woman on their arm and want other guys to be jealous of them.

Is there any truth in this guys? Any girls ever felt this way with a guy?

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  • Perhaps insecure men would agonize about the opinions of other males.

    I, fortunately, am not one of those guys. Admittedly, my woman packed on a few pounds during her pregnancy and thus she carried the extra weight a bit after. But then again, so what! Who cares! That did not stop me from adoring her.

    Even if she hadn't lost the weight, I simply do not care about how hypothetically unattractive she may have been to other males. Those guys don't take care of her, they don't lay next to her, and they have not experienced her greatness.

    As I mentioned on another post, if a guy seems embarrassed to be seen with a woman or to acknowledge her, then she is not the woman for him. Period!

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    • You sound like a great partner and I don't know any woman who wouldn't gain baby weight lol. Thanks for your answer! :-)

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    • You're welcome :-)

    • Awesome reply!! If a man can't be proud of his love regardless of her size he is shallow, that is a very unattractive trait in my opinion.

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What Guys Said 14

  • If a guy is worried about what other people think of his girlfriend, he's pathetic. No one's opinion matters except his because he's dating her.

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    • I agree with you, people should be less concerned with eachother and more with their own lives. Very true.

    • Exactly!

  • I don't want to comment on other men but If I like her then I'm perfectly comfortable going out with her.

    I don't care about those who are below the line judging - cause those who judge on sight are lowly & below the line as far as I'm concerned and if they comment or come at us, I do just the same with them as I'd do to a stray dog that comes to bite me ;) no words - only actions :D

    There are many guys out there who adore larger girls, you'll be surprised with the number of such males :)

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  • It has nothing to do with other guys for me. That's beta thinking. I just like skinny girls because they're hot and fat girls aren't.

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    • Perhaps it's just more of an issue with men who buckle under peer pressure and are easily influenced by what everyone else thinks is hot or not. I'm thinking slightly younger guys lol.

    • Exactly. If you like fat girls, go for fat girls. Who cares what anybody thinks.

  • It's understandable.

    Kind of like--you might be fine driving a certain car around the empty country. if you're going to meet friends/family, you'd be embarrassed. Most guys just wouldn't want to be seen with a glutton.

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  • Those guys are mad insecure...not all guys are like that!

    Being a slave to the opinion of others is pathetic. All people should date who THEY like! :-D

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  • It has everything to do with my attraction, not other guy's.

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  • You think I bench em heavy for fatties? Duhh. Not self conscious, Id just not wanna

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  • if she is beautiful to me i don't care.

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  • ...uh, this is true only if you're like 14.

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  • some men will and some men will not

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  • Yes and I think it works both ways. My boyfriend is really attractive, very fit, outgoing and gets all the ladies and so I feel like an ugly fat tramp next to him and I sometimes feel like I'm judged for it. I always feel like people think, "how the hell did she get him? He could do better!" but that's evidently my own insecurities coming though.

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    • You must be gorgeous otherwise he wouldn't be with you! :-) but I have major insecurities too so I'd probably feel the same even if I was dating shrek O.o

    • Well of course he says and thinks I am gorgeous, but I still question why he's with me over a year later aha!

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