So my friend made this comment that has really hit me and ever since, any related topic has been thrown at my face and it seems like he's right. He said that girls have a lot of power, in terms of appearance. Like we can get away with anything because we're just attractive. There are some girls who literally use their body parts for their job but then there are girls who do it in a slick way especially with Instagram. They know what they're doing by taking such visually amazing photos of themselves but they're also owning the fact that they're hot and applying it towards their business. I don't know but if I were a guy I would find that a turn on. The usual perception of girls showing their bodies are that they're not to be taken seriously and have nothing else to offer. Oh but the contrary my friend, as a girl, I know I'm attractive and I'll embrace it by taking photos of myself and not feel guilty why? Because I know I have more to offer than just my looks so I can take photos when I feel I look good and I see the same in those girls who use their looks in a slick way. I don't think they should be looked down on. Like my friend said, it's one of our powers. You can laugh at that but it takes really open minded and laid back people to accept it and agree with it as opposed to jump to conclusions just cause society has brainwashed you to believe it's a bad thing.
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I understand what you are saying... There is nothing wrong with being confident in your body. Nobody will stop you from taking pictures of yourself. Be proud of who you are. I appreciate people who take care of their bodies. It is a great thing that you believe that you are beautiful. Please remember - you asked a question, and I will respond thoughtfully. I am not looking for an argument. In your question, you mentioned that open-mindedness is important. Please read my answer with an open mind, without rationalization or defensiveness. I am just trying to help. Your account says that you are 25-29 years old... But based on your writing style, I can clearly tell that you are much younger than that. There is a possibility that English was your second language, and there is also a possibility that you are immature. I am not proposing that you must be younger or immature. I am simply stating possibilities. I do not know you, so I can not conclude on anything. Again, I am not doing this to offend you. Is it smart for girls to "use their body" for business? The answer is simple. Absolutely not. There is a distinct difference between using attractiveness to gain respect and authority vs posting pictures of your body online for "business". Out of these two, the first is smart. The second is not. You mentioned in your post... "They know what they're doing by taking such visually amazing photos of themselves but the're also owning the fact that they're hot and applying it towards their business". The problem with this is that it objectifies women. By making looks paramount to women's empowerment, this attitude reduces them to objects. By telling women to gain power through physical attractiveness, rather than their personalities or talents, it teaches them to focus on their looks. You might respond, "But that is not my fault! That is the society's fault of judging me based on looks alone rather than who I really am". You are mistaken. Society IS actually judging your personality. And what do these pictures tell you about your personality? It shows that you depend on your body to prove your worth. It tells people that you prioritize physical appearance more than developing your intelligence, talent, and personality.
Again, you must understand that there is a distinct difference between using appearance for real life business vs posting pictures online to gain popularity, money, or whatever you are seeking.
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I guess I am not smart.0