There is this guy at school that NO ONE likes. I know that is so mean and awful, but you haven't met him. He is way shorter than everyone else, and then he makes fun of me and my friends for being short :P. But it is my nature to try to always be nice to everyone, so I am as nice to him as I can. Well he got a myspace and asked me to be his friend. He has like 20 friends. And he messages or comments me EVERY SINGLE DAY. AT LEAST four times a day. All asking me what I am doing. When he wakes up in the morning he messages me and says GOOD MORNING. He messaged me THREE times (one saying hey sexy how you doing) before I decided to respond. I responded and we talked about our summers. Now he will not leave me alone. He has messaged/commented me abot 60 times in three days. I always deny his comments and delete his messages (I don't respond anymore). He STILL doesn't get the hint. I do not want to tell him to leave me alone (or a nicer cersion of that) because he has no friends and I can't d that to him. So what can I do?! Thanks.
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I think that you need to be honest with him and tell him that you do not like him in that way, but that you can still be friends. That is something that a "nice" girl would say in order to not hurt a guy who likes her, in a "normal" situation. He will probably take the hint from that and not keep bugging you or else he will just try to be your friend in some other way. It really sounds like he's got rejection issues as well as what you mentioned, so I think it's admirable that you are wanting to not hurt him. I think that by you setting "boundaries" with him about what is acceptable from him, such as just being friends with him, that he will find that you care enough as a person to not hurt him, but that you do not want to go out with him. I think that he will have some semblance of respect for you for being humane to him, whereas other people may not have been. It also sounds like he has been very hurt and wounded in his life and that may be why he is acting the way that he is. People have probably not been very nice to him throughout the years, so he is probably expecting that type of treatment from everyone, and so he lives up to the part. I knew a kid like that when I was in school. We had actually grown up together. His dad was an alcoholic and both parents were abusive and neglectful. His parents would rather buy beer than diapers or food for them when they were little. I hadn't seen him for about 10 years until high school. I tried to talk to him and he literally told me to get away from him or he was going to cut my throat! I tried to be nice to him when I saw him, but he would call me every name in the book - for no reason, if I would try to talk to him or be nice to him. I don't know what his parents did to him, but he was really messed up by the abuse in his family - really bad! I know that sounds extreme, but I'm just letting you know that I understand. At any rate, I wish you good luck with this situation!1
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