Does Being Attractive Really Make Your Life Easier?

I've heard life is easier/better for people who are good looking. I personally don't think so, but my opinion is void because I am considered good looking. What do you guys think? Is it true?
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  • No, it comes with its own drawbacks just like everything else. I like to compare it to having some sort of special talent or skill. You have something unique that most people want or admire which is flattering. But after a while you get so used to hearing people praise you for this one, specific thing that it inevitably starts to become a part of your identity and how you determine your own self-worth. You also begin to question whether or not people actually like you for who you are as a human being or for what you represent. Also, when people assume that you look pretty ALL the time, you're more anxious about not living up to their expectations. So if you're already a bit insecure to begin with, this only makes things worse.

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  • I say no because just being attractive doesn't make your life easier. One of my friends who is very pretty has a pretty rough life and it stresses her out all the time: all the weirdos that talk to her, school is still tough, family life, etc. being good looking can help you have self esteem, or it can make you think that all your success in life is do to looks and you therefore have lower self esteem.

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  • It makes your DATING life easier but not your life in general. I know some attractive people who I would never want to trade places with. But seriously tho attractive people have more options of dating and get more chances for relationship fuck ups.

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  • Generally yes, especially for men. Men keep their good looks longer and don't get as much unwanted attention.
    Of course, tragedy touches every life and your mileage may vary.

    I enjoy my above average looks more now, as a relatively old man, than I did when I was younger and looked a whole lot better.

    Some older attractive women are the same, especially if they didn't let it go to their heads when they were younger.

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  • It makes a person's dating life easier but confidence, Charisma and intelligence all make a person's overall life easier.

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  • Yes, Meg. It does make life a little easier. People treat me better than they treat most people. I win people over easily. I attract more customers. It correlates with my health and it means I'm healthier than most people. The list can go on and on...

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  • Absolutely.

    Personally i don't treat unattractive people "badly", but i definitely treat attractive people better.

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  • Everything else being similar, I do think attractive people have easier lives.

    They make friends more easily, have more options for dating, dont have to work as hard to win people over, and statistically make more money over the course of their careers.

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  • Attraction is in your head and how others compare you to what they define as attractive but it doesn't make anything easy in life..
    A beautiful girl that didn't finish school won't be hired as a doctor based on her beauty, beautiful or not if your not qualified you won't get the job.
    Nothing comes easy in life

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  • Nope.. It doesn't.. It depends on the person really.. But generally you don't have an easier or harder life than anybody else.. Sometimes life is harder for a good-looking person.. Heh..

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  • of course it does, its not gunna magically solve all your problems but being unnattractive is not great

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  • Yes, I definitely notice a difference when I am stylish and looking good vs going out looking like crap.

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  • You're good looking!! I told you before as well.. it's just that.. you still don't need to blow the watermelon from your thighs.. lol..

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  • Yes. Attractive people are always more well received.

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    • Well, not "always". (Think of the "welcome" that a highly attractive bombshell of a woman would receive, say, as a PhD candidate or a professor. Or think of how a super hot boy would be treated at a very blue-collar job, or in prison, or other such.)

      But MOST of the time in MOST environments, yeah.

    • @redeyemindtricks Evidently you deal in the fringe. Emkay...
      The answer to the original question is 'YES'. And be the best you can be.

    • Both the fringe and the mainstream, yeah. Which is why it's so easy for me to see the difference.

  • If two people were applying for the same job, they both had the same qualifications, and both did extremely well in an interview, the more attractive one would probably get the job. It's not fair, but that's just the way it is.

    Where I used to work, there were basically two sections. The Technical Specialists (the Haves), and Operations people (the grunts, or Have-Nots. I was in Operations). In one of the company newsletters, they showed group pictures of the student summer-hires. Most of the ones assigned to the Technical section were hot and looked like models. Most of the ones assigned to the Operations section were frumpy, overweight or looked like nerds. It is what it is.

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  • Oh yeah for sure. The clearest example is I see attractive people getting away with things average or unattractive people do constantly.

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  • It makes getting attention easier but it won't improve quality of life because life's a bitch.

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  • I know the reverse is true (that ugly people generally have shitty lives) so it must be.

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  • It's true, and it's been proved by science. But you have to be unattractive to realize how big a disadvantage it is.

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  • It can and often does but it's not a universal truth.

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  • Yes, I am considered attractive between the people I know, and life's been absolutely easier for me.

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  • Ok, so, this is basically going to be common sense once you think about it. Most people just don't think about it much.

    Every slice of life has an "ideal look". And if you have that look... you'll do better, go farther, and have it easier in THAT slice of life.

    And...
    ... wait for it...
    ... in MAINSTREAM slices of life, MAINSTREAM ATTRACTIVENESS pays lots of dividends. Because... well, because duh.

    Socially -- in terms of making positive first impressions, and capturing people's personal INTEREST -- this should be pretty obvious.

    Professionally -- **in mainstream professions** -- this is true, too -- BUT ONLY UP TO A POINT.
    In most professions, if someone is just dazzlingly beautiful, then she/he WILL be taken less seriously as a professional. Bosses and higher-ups will make (mostly unconscious) assumptions about how this person is "superficial" -- and might even get in their heads the idea that she/he isn't quite as dedicated to the job as someone closer to average (... because a super hot dude might come off as "high-maintenance" or too selfish/narcissistic to actually WORK HARD... and because LOTS of people just assume that a very beautiful woman will always just marry some dude of means, and then scale back to the "mommy track" or just stop working altogether).

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    Two more things to think about:

    • In NON-mainstream slices of life... conventional attractiveness is NOT a plus, and can even lead to automatic ostracism.
    Like okay. I'm a conventionally attractive woman. I'm also, on the inside, a gigantic fucking geeknerd. I've been to lots of "Geek Girl" group meetups -- mostly just to find gal pals to nerd out with, sometimes more specifically to find gaming buddies (because my husband doesn't play video games, other than the old arcade-style ones). But, I've NEVER been truly accepted by those women -- and it's not very difficult to tell that it's **because** I'm conventionally attractive, and that I definitely put effort into my looks (... I'm honestly hotter now than I was at half my age, and, that doesn't come easy).
    And, I mean, I literally make most of my LIVING by socializing, networking, and making connections -- often with people I have very little in common with -- so, it's not like I'm getting stonewalled because my social skills suck lol. I'm DEFINITELY being rejected for what's on the outside. It's... illuminating.

    Academia is another bastion of the non-mainstream. (Let's face it -- *some* people get PhD's because they genuinely love

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    • their studies... but most of them are rlly just trying to find a low-risk career path that avoids The Big Bad Real World.) It's bad enough for female professors in most subject areas (especially STEM subjects) -- but, ahha the kind of reception that uncommonly attractive female PhD's get. Ain't no respect, that's for sure. You can probably imagine, if you think about it.

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      For incredibly attractive BOYS... there's a whole different set of problems.

      Most male friendships, honestly, are more about competition than about actual support (or anything else that we women get from our girlfriends). If you don't realize this, then, try to listen in on conversations among boys about their love lives -- EVERYTHING is a fucking contest, from the size of their wife's/gf's boobs, to how many women they've [supposedly] bedded, to all the porn-inspired things they've [supposedly] done in the bedroom. And... well, everything else is like that, too.
      So, unsurprisingly, most boys don't tend to

    • hang out with anyone who too obviously outshines them.
      As a result -- the BEST looking boys usually don't have a whole lot of male friends. And when they do, their "friends" sure spend a lot of effort trying to subtly bring them down to the level of everyone else in the group. (It's especially ironic how boys describe women's girlfriends as "catty"... if you've ever witnessed the dynamic in ANY group of boys, it's thousands of times worse.)

      This gets worse the older boys get, too. If you find a man in his mid-forties who's still honestly HOT... well, he'll probably have had a decently varied romantic history, but, that man will nooootttt have a whole lot of male friends. Probably won't have any.

      Also, think about, say, a hotttt boy trying to make it as a comedian. Ahahhah yeah, nope. Same (to a somewhat lesser degree) for other entertainment/"alt" professions -- let's just say you won't see a lot of Polo models becoming rock stars anytime soon.

      MOST importantly... there are two

    • things YOU -- and everyone else -- should do about this issue:

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      MAKE YOURSELF MORE ATTRACTIVE... to whatever extent you can, given the amount of effort you're willing to put into it.
      Get in better shape.
      Don't eat like shit.
      Don't LIVE like shit. Recover, sleep, relax, have friends.
      Learn to use cosmetics (... because People Who Irrationally Hate All Makeup exist only on the internet, not in the real world -- and, srsly, those people have more issues than Vogue, so it's not like you'd want anything to do with them if you DID meet one).

      Don't over-do. Introspect, find the amount of effort that YOU can put into this without burnout or stress... and do it.

      And then...

      2/
      Stop giving fucks about anything past that point.

      Because if there's nothing you can realistically do about it... then, why worry about it. Spend yr time on things you can actually CHANGE in yr life, instead.

  • I can only say what people have told me.. but countless people have called me pretty beautiful etc.. yet i've had a hard life in general.. so my looks have got me no where lol.. but i think in lots of cases it does get people somewhere and give them a better easier life.

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  • They done studies that show people are friendlier to those who are attractive and are even more likely to get hired or get a promotion. Doesn't this happens for every attractive person though or that their life is perfect. There is plenty of hate for attractive people.

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  • Absolutely, I think so. Regardless of what kind of person you are, the first thing people notice and judge you on (in real life) is your appearance. Of course not all people are shallow and discard others solely on looks, but it is your first impression. Being better-looking gives you an automatic advantage (in life) initially, but things like intelligence, personality, dedication and skill are what keep you in the game.

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  • I think it does to a certain extent it's probably true. There's too many experiments and such to deny that, but in my experience it only gets you little things. I don't think it can help you get a really good job or get into a good college or find an amazing partner.

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  • People tend to be nicer towards you. You get received well, meaning most people tend to trust you more. As far as work, school and life in general, I wouldn't say it helps too much. You still have to work as hard as everyone else. Your bills are still the same, you may get better job opportunities, but work is work.

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  • I'm not the best person to answer this question since I don't fit in the attractive category, but I reckon I would feel good about myself if I was attractive. I'm not sure about life being easier, because everyone goes through hard times. At least if I was attractive I would feel good in my own skin, which eases life in a way because it would be less likely I would have insecurities concerning my physical appearance. Despite what I just said, this is not really guaranteed, you never know.

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  • I feel in many cases attractiveness comes to factor in finding work more easily, gaining promotions and raises. It seems that companies/businesses tend to seek a "face that sells" (of course this doesn't apply to all fields of work, but it seems so for many). But then again, what makes a person physically attractive varies from one to another. I've been flat out called unattractive and been called gorgeous? I think it also comes with the idea that those who see themselves as attractive tend to carry more confidence in themselves which then propels them in life.

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  • When we meet someone, our first impression is around looks. It is later that things like, personality, character and brains start to take meaning. In reality, people who fall for looks make it easier for those with good looks. But, this works well only to get initial attention or sometimes a little more. However, truly mature n smart people go for brains, character and personality, irrespective of the way you look. By evolution good looks are merely indicative of a person’s quality as a romantic partner & mate, predominantly in terms of quality of health and genes. Its kind of surprising that, just this aspect has so much role to play in our lives, in many ways. :)

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  • No. Honestly some people will be nicer to you, but otherwise it has it's perks and it's draw backs.

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  • Not being ugly make your life easier but you don't need to be attractive. Just being average is good. being attractive can attract lot of problem and unwanted attention.

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    • "being attractive can attract lot of problem and unwanted attention."

      For women, yes, for men it's more of a positive. Attractive men are happier than attractive women.

    • @I-am-a-nobody Surely, I'm a woman not a men so I can't say for them. I was talking about a women side. i'm considered to be attractive and it have lead to lots of unwanted attention and awkward moment even when dressed very conservative ways.

  • Not much, I know a bunch of people who are attractive and life is not easier for them. Sure, dating is easier but I don't feel like people will necessarily treat you differently and if they do, why would everyone assume it's in a positive way? Some will be nicer to you but others will be jealous or think less of you, thus treating you badly. Making genuine male friends can also be difficult. Of course everyone would rather be attractive than not and it can have its perks, but I don't believe that life is suddenly rainbows and flowers just because you have a pretty face.

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  • I wish it wasn't that way, but I'm afraid that it does make some aspects of life easier. I know this because I don't nor do I believe anyone considers me attractive. But that's life, I suppose.

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  • I think it does. I've been on both sides, so I can say that. When I was in intermediate school, I was the skinny, awkward girl with glasses who got made fun of constantly. That actually made me not want to talk to people because I felt like people were assholes for the most part. As I got older I grew into my body and started wearing contacts and doing things to look more attractive. People treat me differently now and are more willing to help me and to befriend me. It does make life a bit easier, no question.

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  • Well not sure about that but I guess they get better reciprocation from other than most will.

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  • No if especially all the idiotic guys thinks it's a cause for sexual harassment.

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  • No I think it's personality

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  • Oh most definitely. Lmao.

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  • They might have an advantage.

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  • at some points only

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