I enjoy exercising, playing sports, being healthy, and finally having a figure that I'm happy with. But when I started gaining the confidence to wear nice clothes again, I quickly remembered why I started to wear oversized men's clothing from Goodwill in the first place; because I don't have men (especially much older men/men that make me uncomfortable) watching me like a hawk.
But it's like a double-edged sword. The "ugly" clothes I feel comfortable in and get a lot less if no attention, but I look in the mirror or at pictures and I look horrible. What makes it worse is that I work hard to be in good shape, and have so many cute clothes that I look great in/badly want to wear. But I could wear something as simple as a turtleneck sweater and a skirt with flats or a maxi dress, and feel eyes burning into my skin! I leave the house feeling like a model and come home feeling gross. And then I revert back to mud-stained work jeans and a hoodie 3 sizes too big (and feeling not so good/presentable). Once I was even in the grocery store after an Easter event with my brother, wearing a peach dress and flats (not even provocative, we went to church). And at some point my brother said that this old man was looking at me in a way that he didn't like. I know that it's something's that women just go through, but I don't know how to handle it--but at the same time I want to look nice, for myself!
Most Helpful Guy
It's called life and you have to make a decision between the 2. Is it really so bad that guys stare at you? It doesn't seem to bother people in other careers or outfits that get stares. Muslim women get lots of stares because of their weird hijab, but it doesn't bother them.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Don't worry about external things. Then a blind eye to it0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE