I really like this girl. She's adorable and really cute but her armpits are really nasty. She almost always wears really short sleeved shirts and she always lies on my bed with like an arm stretched out. She has really really bad shadow and stubble, like the worst I've seen without it being armpit hair. How do I bring this up? I'm not with her yet but I'm very close.
She also sweats alot. Spending like three minutes outside soaks her pits and her shirt gets really bad sweat stains.
She's a really cute girl and I still like her regardless but is it possible for me to bring this up without it like hurting my chances with her or offending her? It wouldn't be a problem if it was justl ike a one day thing but every time I see her it looks like someone just rubbed a dirty pencil eraser on her pits and took like a pen annd tried to make a connect the dots picture
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Hold up there a second. Most girls I know have bad enough body issues already, and you want to bring up another one?
I'd personally be really, really embarrassed if I was in that situation and you brought it up to me. I myself am a little bit self-conscious about the appearance of my pits (I also have pretty bad shadowing, and because of the shape, it's extremely hard to get a good shave), but short of getting them waxed or lasered, I really don't know if there's anything I can do about it. Asking her to shave better might just get you frustration, "I know, I'm trying", and depending on how sensitive she is, tears.
I also used to sweat really bad, and was super self-conscious about it as well - I actually wore more clothes when it was hot out to hide the sweat stains. It doesn't happen anymore, apparently I've grown out of it, but I would have been so, so embarrassed if anybody called me out on it.
I have no idea how sensitive this girl is about this sort of stuff, but it's a pretty safe bet she knows what her own body looks and acts like. If she's wearing sleeveless shirts and lying on your bed with her arm stretched out, I'm guessing she trusts you to not care about it. If you bring it up in any way, it'll probably push her to take some action, but you risk upsetting her at least temporarily, if not longer.2