There's this girl around campus who isn't exactly what most people would consider attractive. She's a little overweight (not too bad) and her features aren't exactly striking. However, I personally think she's kinda cute. I really don't know why but there's something about her that I kinda like. On top of that, she's got a kinda geeky personality, like myself, which is perfect. We've chatted a few times and we seem to get along, so I think if I asked her out she'd probably say yes.
Here's where I run into a problem: I do not have the self-confidence to endure the inevitable teasing accompanied with being involved with a girl that nobody else finds attractive. I'm prone to depression and I don't deal with it well, so I'm afraid of what a situation like this would do to my already fragile emotional state. Everyday I put on my "I'm OK" mask and plow through, but I don't think I'll be able to keep up that image in such a situation.
At the same time, I feel like a terrible person for letting everyone else's opinion dictate who I date, but I can't help it. I'm not emotionally strong enough to deal with to be looked down on that way, especially since (not to sound like an asshole) I'm pretty sure I'm just a little out of her league in terms of looks. I've just never had the self confidence to ask out the more traditionally attractive girls.
I'd appreciate any advice/comments on the subject. I'm a little torn on what to do here...
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Sounds like you need to work on yourself before you can consider dating her. Why not start reading about how to build self-esteem or see a therapist for a few sessions to discuss this subject. Investing in your self-esteem will help you in so many areas of your life and for the rest of your life.2