I mean, I'm decent looking, reasonably confident, nice, I have faults, I don't have the most colorful personality. but I have a lot of social smarts, a wide variety of interests and a few things that I'm really passionate about, whether it's one of the things I like to do, or for instance, my favorite musical artists/bands I absolutely love with a passion and I love seeing them in concert.
but with girls, I'm not too successful in terms of getting a date or even knowing if a girl even wants to talk to me, much less likely be interested in me. I'd love to find a girl I thought was the most beautiful woman in the world and someone I could never even think about ruining what we have. I'm not a guy to cheat I could never do it. I know the term nice guys finish last, and for the time being, it seems unfortunately true.
there are a lot of times where I do get frustrated and down and feel lonely or worry if I'll ever find someone, but I'm only 20 years old. I really hope to see my luck change. I'm not ever caught at parties or anything. I mostly do my own thing with my close friends and do my best to keep up in school lol. trying to find work as well.
I just really hope to find the girl of my dreams one day, and have it not be about a girl wanting to change me or whatever, but just accept me for me. girls seem to think I'm boring, pssh even some of my old male friends, because I'm not really apart of their group anymore that hits up clubs and college parties. I'd like to expand my social circle and opportunities and all tho. I'm not opposed to going to hang out at a party.
I just hope my luck will change. Is there any hope for me? thank you! :)
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of course! why would you want to be anyone else? Whether she's beautiful or not, never EVER change yourself for someone! True beauty and love comes within, and I promise, in a few years she won't be as beautiful anymore and that's where true love comes in.
Maybe the problem is not whether or not your changing yourself, but rather to better yourself, then that is a different story. You wrote that you are "reasonably confident" and don't have the most colorful personality. Maybe now is the push and time to finally come out of your shell and to become who you really want to be- a handsome confident and vibrant person!
Maybe try things that will give you more confidence, like do daring things that you would never do otherwise! How about skydiving? Or do something crazy like walk into a bar and tell the most beautiful woman there that she is stunning! Or how about have some of your lady friends give you a total makeover that will help build up your confidence!
To help your personality, maybe indulge yourself in social activities that you would otherwise never be caught doing! Why not go to a party with some friends and meet new people and become more outgoing and learn to tell stories about your life and share things about yourself that no one else knows.
The problem is not that you can't have this beautiful lady , it's that your worried you'll never measure up. Your fine just the way you are! If you want to better yourself, then go for it! But never EVER change!0