i have a hard time finding genuine, nice guys. I'm not one of the girls who is into cocky guys, but it definitely seems as though those are the only guys I attract. my guy friends say its because I look "high maintenance" and the good guys don't ever go for that. usually its the douchey high maintenance guys that like me.
i like guys who are a little more quiet and reserved because they have more respect for women. I like the guys who don't put a ton of effort into the way they look, and that don't hit on every girl they meet. however, they never seem to like me in return. I don't act super flirty, and I don't dress slutty, but I guess I do have a higher maintenance look. (as in super long hair that I usually have straightened, I wear makeup daily, nails done, and I try to dress nice as much as I can. it just makes me feel good)
i don't have a high maintenance personality, I am actually really laid back. I live with 4 guys so I can clearly get along with them. but I feel like none of the nicer guys I meet want to get to know me in order to find that out. if I talk to them,i always try to be super nice, but they always seem disinterested, or just instantly dismiss me. do they just assume I am snobby or shallow?
i don't want to change my ways for anyone, because this is who I am and what makes me comfortable. I'm just curious to see if this theory is true.
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Quiet and reserved guys are just that, quiet and reserved. We're hard to get to know unless you somehow get in our circle of friends or just start approaching us and talking to us all the time. We're not going to ask you out right away either, maybe not until we've been friends for months and can tell we actually have a chance with a girl that dresses like you and know you aren't just messing with our heads or seeing us on the rebound from some douche bag.2