I'm expecting to get some angry replies, but I'd be interested in any answers that understand my question is a serious inquiry with a willingness to learn, not a rant.
I am curious why girls (and perhaps guys; I don't know as I don't date them) find brushing a date off is the best way to deal with them. Wouldn't it be easier and less frustrating to just be honest and direct? Wouldn't being direct eliminate a lot of unwanted attention from someone you're not interested in?
For example, if you go out with someone who calls/texts you, isn't it easier to text them saying you're not interested? "Nice to meet you, but we're not a match". I've talked to a lot of female friends who get agitated when a guy calls them two or three times before giving up, so wouldn't just telling him the deal save you frustration? And wouldn't it be nicer? Those same female friends of mine complain how guys don't call them, or how guys string them along, or ignore them, so wouldn't it make sense to not want to put someone else in the same position?
Please help me understand. To me, it seems like most peole in general are 100% selfish and only care about what's easiest for them. It just seems to me it would be easier for them as well if they stopped ignoring and telling lies to avoid contact. Am I wrong?
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No it wouldn't. I would rather know straight up then be ignored. I have had it happen to me before and it tore me to peices. Sucked major ballz.2