people say I'm pretty. But Compliments don't help torn self image.
i can't tell anyone about it. IVE TRIED. people get mad its like this
SHUT UP your beautiful I would kill for your body just stop talking.
no I'm not some girl fishing for compliments. people tell me I'm beautiful all the time. I have loads of friends. I have a good relationship with my family. but I am always wanting to disappear and stay alone.
girls should be flattered if they turn guys heads. but I hate it. I just want to disappear whenever they're looking at me. I feel like they're laughing at how ugly I am. maybe they are who knows.
I'm not anorexic, but I feel so much better when I don't eat. I feel so much better about myself. I'm healthy and toned size 3 to 5 to 7. nobody thinks they're is anything wrong.
this isn't a question asking if I'm cute or not.
i have a problem accepting who I am. and its not anybody putting me down. I want to be happy. and people can't do that. I want to feel like I have something to offer.
how do I stay healthy without getting too obsessive? how do I stop this? ho can I be more comfortable ? I know beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. its just... :S
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I was fat all through public school. I was bullied. I had no friends or love interest. I hated myself. I told myself that once I was thin, people would accept me. I didn't realize how toxic that thinking was at the time.
Fast-forward 10 years. I lost my body fat about a year ago, and started grad school a semester ago. I've noticed a very sharp difference in how the opposite sex treats me now. Walking around campus, I feel like a super model sometimes with all the looks I get. Girls come up and talk to me, flirt, give me their numbers without much hassle. I'm not complaining about this; I'm much happier now than I was when I was fat.
However, I know exactly what you mean; all that attention just makes me really uncomfortable. I've come to accept that I have an awful self-image, constructed from years of self-hatred during my formative years. And I do also suffer from depression, which doesn't help matters either. My dating life is shot because of it, and I can't explain it to anyone so that it makes sense. I can date a girl, take her out, show her a good time. And I "know" she's attracted because she gives me the signs. And I "know" she wants to see me more because she's always happy I'm around. But I never "feel" like they are actually into me, if that makes sense. Nothing with a girl ever feels like its going right, and I usually withdrawal and avoid contact after a couple dates.
I think it comes down to changing your internal dialogue. And if you stop and listen for it, you can hear it, so to speak. I'll catch myself subconsciously belittling myself, and I have to stop and say, "Everything's fine. You're a funny, talented man, and any women would be lucky to have you." That helps sometimes, but really, at the end of the day, it's exhausting. It's exhausting trying to interact in a situation that makes you uncomfortable. And it's exhausting always having to correct yourself. But it gets easier once you see progress. Plus, I think therapy might help, which I plan to look into soon.
I don't know who you are, but I know what you're going through. And if you're anything like me, I know there's a happy person under that terrible self-image, just waiting to be free and make everyone else happy.