Appearance? Personality? What?
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most people believe it or not will initially judge you by your looks, me included. does that make me shallow? I don't think so, because its a human characteristic. shallow would be basing attraction on looks alone.
first impressions mean a lot. I think that goes for men and women. it's just how our brains are wired. everyone is different in what they find attractive, short, tall, long hair, fat, skinny, etc...if looks didn't matter, why do we as human beings spend so much time doing things to make us look as good as possible? sure you have some people that actually don't care about how they look, and that's what floats their boat, and those people are rare.
however all that looking good means nothing when that person approaches you and your personality sucks ass, because you'll never have a meaningful relationship if you're not attractive personality-wise to anybody you might date. I have a few of friends that people go crazy over because they look a certain way, but they don't keep their girlfriends/boyfriends long because they're boring, or self-absorbed, or just not nice.