Everyone on here is constantly saying looks don't matter, personality first etc. However everyone knows they do as they are the initial point of attraction to a person.
Does being that you're good looking, above average, average or bellow average (even with personal preference variability) help you gain perspective in how you're initially perceived?
Many of the comments on GAG make it seem that being aware of your looks is only healthy if you're not in the top bracket. That's hypocrisy and something called "the beauty penalty". If someone is good looking and is aware of it (and all the good/bad things that come along with it) why are they egotistical? Also assume they aren't boasting about how awesome it is. How are they egotistical for stating something, in a humble manner (and not using it for power) that may as well be a relative fact such as your income bracket.
Example: a good looking guy is aware of his looks, women chase him even if he's not interested and they're confusing his looks with a character trait. He is aware of why he's treated by them a certain way, even if he doesn't want to necessarily be treated that way. Why is he an egoist?
Why, do people historically cut down the tall poppies for personal gain?
The question is why a person can't say they are good looking, but stating you're average or bellow average is accepted...if not even promoted as false humbleness etc?
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I don't know what "everyone" is saying. Looks do matter.
People do initially judge a book by its cover because that's the first thing you see. But I would say the cover includes not just physical appearance (since we're usually not just looking at photographs) but also mannerisms. From what I gather, this is particularly true when it comes to what women care about. Also, how someone dresses has an impact on different people.
But I disagree that it's so easy for someone to know that they're beautiful or handsome. We can look in a mirror but we can't tell what other people think of us.
I don't know how to judge guys from a woman's perspective!
A lot of the guys that women fawn over, I have to shrug and be like, "Huh, I really don't get it." It's not that I'm jealous. It's that I really DON'T get it. Even though I don't get it, I'd be happy to learn what women are attracted to if I could ever get a consistent answer.
The only thing we know is whether we're popular or not, but I'd argue that popularity is not the same thing as beauty. Someone who is popular can easily infer that they're good looking from all the attention they're getting. But I see a lot of popular people who are only slightly above average in appearance, and usually the most popular girl is not the best looking girl in the room. That much I know.
See, the story of the Ugly Duckling has a lot of truth to it. If you put a swan in a pool of ducks, the ducks are going to ignore the swan because it's not one of them. Maybe it even intimidates them. But once the swan is in a pool with other swans, it realizes how beautiful it really is. Just because the swan doesn't fit-in doesn't mean it's less beautiful than your average mallard. The reverse may be the truth but it matters who is doing the judging.1