Out of my small group of friends I've always been the one that's bigger than the others, when I'm with my friends I'm just the chubby one, they're always just that little bit prettier.
I'm not an ugly person , I know that. But I was wondering if you had any advice on how I could maybe stand out more in a group when with my friends.
to guys- What makes you more drawn to one girl in specific from a group, what makes you notice her?
to girls- what do you usually do to make yourself stand out ?
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*Beware, blunt honesty*
I notice most women primarily upon looks. I can notice looks from across the room, while I can't do the same for personality, character, etc. Obviously certain situations are exceptions, like if I see her taking care of her grandma versus partying with a bunch of guys, but I'm speaking in a generic sense.
After that, comes energy. If she is socially calibrated to ignore drama and promote a fun time, then I'm all for being around those types of people.. There's just something about being relaxed around a girl that I can't quite reiterate.. It takes the pressure off my shoulders when I realize I don't have to be "Mr. Serious" =/
Lastly, if she can connect to my life.. If she can relate to my experiences or at least converse with me in a natural way, rather than forcing the conversation, I'll pick up on that.. And THAT is what makes me strongly desire to be around a certain girl over all the other "pretty girls" who don't have half the intelligence.
There's certain guys for certain people.. Some guys just want to get laid, and will go after those "fun girls" who are always socializing.. Other guys are work oriented and want a lady who can respect their work schedule, etc.. The more well-rounded you are (and open minded) the better.. Just make sure you have your OWN boundaries and that you stick to them.