Do most girls want to be with a guy for his money?

In the end, when it comes to settling down do most girls want to be with a guy only for his money? Not that their greedy but afraid of not being financially secure to start and provide for their future family? Mainly because of status and fear of facing other peoples negative opinions? Because I have seen even the nicest girls with the most integrity settle down for complete douchebags with a lot of money.
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well then let me rephrase my question. Do girls want to be with a rich guy not much for dependence but status even she is well off herself? Since she may find being with a guy who works as a waiter, degrading for her high financial status?
okay girls/guys I don't want any more answers. I've got enough and I want to close this discussion.

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  • well its always important to be financially stable for both the guy and girl and their families...it doesn't mean you have to be rich or well off...just as long as you have a decent place to live in, a car and basic necessities

    its not a dealbreaker though, if I find out the guy I truly love and like a lot is poor its not gonna change the way I feel about him and I wanna be with him forever

    also the only reason the stereotype exists is because back in the day women didn't have jobs and rights as men did...and they depended on men financially so the culture carried over for men to be more financially successful then women...but nowadays its all equal so it doesn't matter women can be successful too and she doesn't care how much money a guy has she makes her own earnings...

    one last thing...even if women find money an important factor...well everyone does money is important to go on in life...but specifically women, theyre not looking at money to buy designer handbags or live in luxury, any woman who does well she's shallow and a minority, most women actually are concerned about money because of children...you want your kids to have a nice life a nice education and comfort...its part of the motherly nature in us...because to us, to be a guy and to love a guy we are already thinking of marrying him because we love him, and eventually we want to have kids with him, and being a parent is a lot of work and to raise kids the right way you need money. not to the point to where theyre spoiled but to wear they have a life of comfort, ease and no tensions.

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  • Not matter how much I will make in the future, I will NEVER settle with a guy for his money.

    For his intelligence, yes. His heart, yes. For HIM yes.

    I'd rather be poor with a man I love than rich with a man I've got no feelings for.

    I just don't take money into account when it comes to love, and I think it's highly disgusting to do so. Money or the lack thereof doesn't change who the person is.

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    • dweebette ... that's the kind of answer I was looking for... any guy would be lucky to be with you...

    • Well I hope they realize that soon :P

  • For me, I want to be with someone who is compatible at many levels. Financial would be one of the areas, and yes, that is important to me. In the same way a guy does not want to be wanted for JUST his earning power, a gal does not want to be used for the same reason. I have a doctoral degree, and one of MY concerns is attracting a fella that looks at my earning power and wants me for that so that HE does not feel like he as to work if he does not feel like it.

    Also, I would want the guy to earn enough so that if I got sick or incapacitated for awhile and could not work, our bills could still be paid and we could survive that financial blow until I got back on my feet. I would of course support him if the same happened to him. So I do look at earning power in this way:

    - does he have a steady job or is he a job-hopper?

    - does he make around the same as I do or if not, does he make enough that the bills, mortgage, etc. can be taken care of if one of us gets sick for awhile?

    - is he a spender? does he know how to save? does he know how to handle his money?

    - on the other hand, is he a skin-flint or is he generous when he needs to be generous?

    These are things that have to do with compatibility...

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    • don't know why someone would give you a down arrow. I find your point well articulated and perfectly valid.

    • Watch that skin-flint comment, 'cause I'm willing to bet that mentality could bite you on the ass some day. Smart guys are generous when they can be, but never all the time. You put such levels of extremes as possible options for generosity that one can only assume that you intend for a guy to spend too much money on you...A good guy will spend money when on you when he can, but you're only one piece of his life.

  • Do girls want to be with a rich guy not much for dependence but status even she is well off herself? Since she may find being with a guy who works as a waiter, degrading for her high financial status?

    Yes I'd want an equal career wise.

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    • What if you uncontrollably/spontaneously fall for a waiter? Because sometimes its very difficult to control or discard feelings.

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    • Same to you.

      At least I know if I ever just wanted a rich guy I have more than 10 that would wife me without a prenup.

      Good luck finding your girl.

    • get a room you 2

  • Nope. My parents do want me to marry someone with a decent job (they don't have to be rich or some hugely successful lawyer or something. They just have to have a good salary and be able to easily support a family). However, personally I rather be with someone who earns the national minimum but does what he wants to do and is happy in life. Someone who I like for his personality and intelligence and heart, rather than his job.

    I am no where near finding the guy I want to marry, so this doesn't help too much. However, I know that the majority of guys I've been interested in in the past aren't rich or even well off. They are just about stable but they are amazing guys and that's all that matters to me. I think this is just because my own career path is something I'm choosing for the love of the job and not for the money. With my degree, I could go into something that would earn me £30k-£40 as a starting salary and go up to £70k pretty quickly, etc. However, I'm choosing something with a £16k average starting salary, which can take like 40 years to get up to £40k, lol. And the reason is because I love it so I can't be a hypocrite and expect the guy to earn a lot of money. It just wouldn't be fair.

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  • It depends. I would never ever marry a man I did not love 110 percent. However I know plenty of girls who are infact raised to marry a man for how much he makes! Some girls just want to be spoiled and plan to use a man for cash and cheat on the side. Other women just want to be secure to have a good amount of money for their children. It all depends.

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  • I really don't care how much a guy makes if he is trying his best in his career and for me. I am engaged and both me and my fiance are in school right now but my chosen career path makes more money than his, but I am not going to make him change it because that is what he loves doing. As long as we are both happy and secure with what we want to do with our lifes than I don't see the problem.

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    • I wish I could like this more. I'm in the same boat-ish thing. I want to be a teacher my girl wants to be a chemical engineer ha

    • Ha yeah, you can't help what you like :) at least everyone is trying for something they love. Nowadays it really doesn't matter who makes more.

  • It's always nice to know that you have a guy that well off financially of course ! But I mean, only a really desperate girl would be with someone primarily JUST for that.. For me, I'd have to be attracted to the dude and like his personality, and he would have to respect me..Guys with money can be jerks because they think they have it all.

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  • This was how life was 50 years ago. In order to be successful, a woman needed to rely on her husband for financial security. But now? Some women still rely on this way of thinking, but not most. If I am more than capable of taking care of myself, and making my own money, why would I need someone else's? I look forward to contributing to my relationship just as much as my partner will. And in this society, I am just as likely to make a lot of money as he is. No matter who makes the most money, I would much rather settle down with someone who I am happy with.

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    • I wish I find a girl like you, though I'm not going to be in a relationship and marry before at least I can afford to buy a house and its furniture

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    • so even if the guy you desire is a homeless dude, would you still choose to marry him?

    • I think it would depend on the situation. No, I don't care if my guy makes less money than I do. But in this economy, both partners usually have to work in some way to take care of a family. If he was a stay-at-home dad, temporarily unemployed, or having health problems, then he would have an excuse to stay home. But no one person should have to cary the other completely without good cause, unless the person working was able to support them both comfortably. Again, this is just an oppinion.

  • me personally no...reason to it is I hate people giving me money and I hate people buying me things unless for holidays,birthday and anniversary other then that don't but me a thing lol.. I mean hell my boyfriend right now lives in a trailer and I don't think any different of him..if people date someone for there money I say its because they never had it when they were growing up

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  • Anyone who tells you flat out no is lying. A lot of girls do only care about the status. A lot of girls don't just the same, but a lot of women coming from a successful financial situation look for a man coming from the same for status and to please the family, and will even write off love with the excuse that you guys just come from different lifestyles. Again though, this is only some, a lot of girls don't care and are really after love especially now when it seems even harder to find.

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  • It depends on the girl. But lets think about this. Guys do this as much as girls do, but for different reasons. Now lets look at this reasonably. Status matters, money matters, looks matter, and how you carry yourself matters. This is so that a girl can "judge" you for how much of a "man" you really are. Girls sell themselves to the highest bidder, especially if they have been put on a pedestal by guys out there. There are some girls that say they don't care about that, but when they are put in the situation they backpedaled. The fact is that girls are attracted to money, power and fame. While a guy that has money can be a douche bag, for some girls it's better than the alternative, the good guy that doesn't have much.

    Off the subject. Guys want girls that look a certain way, that will do certain things, and give them what they want sexually without question. When a guy meets a girl, sometimes he knows that she is looking for certain things. Then the game starts. If a guy says he's a doctor to a girl that has turned down other guys because they weren't up to her "standards", she gets with him, then she finds out later that he isn't a doctor, who is the one leading who on? For the girl, she got with him only because he said he was a doctor, and the guy knew that so he told the story. If it were about how good the guy was in the first place and not about his status he wouldn't have done that to get the girl.

    Now, are all girls like this? No, and hell no. But the vast majority are and they don't want to admit to it. Many are materialistic and try to put it as realistic, then try to play victim when they get "played" by guys that put on the high maintenance act. Some girls figure that if they are going to be with a guy, there must be an equal trade of value. So some would rather be with a guy with money and be financially secure and not love the guy rather than be with someone that doesn't have much money but will give them real love.

    Since some girls figure that all men are the same, they think they should have a well off one and have sex with him for the trade of value of being financially secure. As far as girls that already have money. Why do you think that women that have money say they don't need a man? Since they earn the money themselves and for the most part don't like sex, they think that everything they want is already accomplished. People may not agree, but it is what it is, and facts are facts. As I said, are all women like this? No, and hell no.

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  • no dude this is called straight survival instict... we just went through Americas first 30 year period of divorce w/o shame ... so we have a whole generation being raised to protect themselves by at least securing income... Its not always the girls fault... its actually asubtle psychological reaction to environmental conditions and instinctively animalistic. and if your woman makes more money than you in this country ...you will either be her bitch or her gigolo. Seriously bro... Things aren't more complicate d than animal planet... and most girls ...even the ones with degrees and money aren't that smart... If you want agirl who wants you for your mind... Marry a Geek or A nerd or an artist... I don't use these as a derrogatory terms as I myself own a tech company but seriously its a jungle out there and you gotta decide ...hunter or gather... either that or step your game and learn the art of seduction... if you learn that... no matter how much money you make you will never be alone... I know you've seen knockouts walking arm in arm with the ugliest man on the planet... You'll find that seduction and a good sense of humor can put you in the driver seat... I was quite the manwhore in college so unfortunately I know these things... I now have a daughter so I am teaching her not to be with guys like you... or me for that matter... The standards I teach all the women in the class I teach

    1 substitute for dowry: good income 2 degrees BA/ MA ( why? women want to feel stable and there is nothing a woman resents more than financially supporting her man... they all say otherwise but the womens lib movement wasn't about equality at all it was about domination and they won

    2. must have an IQ over 140 or at least be smarter than you ( reason : women are naturally intellectually curious and you will bore them quickly and they will cheat even if their the pastors wife if a guy like I used to be comes around))

    3.)cultured. I tell my girls to stop accepting dinner and a movie.choose fine cuisine and the opera even if you don't like fine cuisine or the opera.. set your standards higher than you really want and you will always get what you want.

    4.) if you wanna make sure a guy really loves you keep your legs closed... and when he begs just hold out your ring finger...and tell him 2 belong there and smile...60 percent of my first class got engaged in 6 months.

    so yes money trumps love every time in a world with a nearly 70% divorce rate

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  • Theoretically speaking all woman are Gold Diggers, they might deny it, but in the end, on the long run any woman would much more desire to be with a man with a fanatical status than one without one.

    Let's face the cold hard truth we live in capitalistic country "U.S.A, for most of us" money is the fountain that feeds life to our consumerist way of life if we therefore have no financial infrastructure how will we feed and nurture our youth, how will we live a comfortable life away from heart aches of added stress.

    Women tend to go after the alpha male the being with the absolute power. "well at least the smart ones do" A man that on the long run will provide her with the most basic necessities in life, if your broke and still work on a low income paying job the hard cold reality is that you will not be able to provide your loved ones with all their needs. U.S.A suffers the highest divorce rate out of all countries in the world and the number one underlying issue that plagues 90% of those divorces is "you guessed it right" MONEY ladies and gentleman.

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  • No not necessarily a rich guy, let's face it in today's time with our economy being rich just isn't happening for most people. Women want a man who has a goal in life and works on achieving his goal. They don't want a guy who has no goals in life and just sits on the couch all day and does nothing, while he still lives with his parents until he is 40.

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  • of course money matters do you think donald trump would be dating models if he didn't have that money or tiger woods sleeping with 100+ women

    the amount of money a guy has determines the time type of women he dates.

    there is a reason why homeless men can't get woman no matter their personalities

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  • The reason girls often go for guys with money is not just because girls have dollar sign glasses but because money is usually associated with security, and girls want to be with someone the can feel safe around. If a guy is financially well off, a lot of girls know that if they end up having kids with him he can provide for the family or if they don't have kids she still will feel safe being with him.

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  • many do. there are easy ways to sea woman gives a hoot about you. does she sexually suprise you? does she ever spontaniously rub your kneck or back? if a girl is a true give or true take take taker you will know if she wants you for your money. I would have to say that about a third of woman do want men that only for their money. just guessing. another third want stability with love and last third just follow their heart and go with winners losers etc

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  • money isn't everything in the world, but it is necessary. Some girls would like a guy that can earn more money than themselves so they can provide an income for a future family, but for a girl to like a guy only for his money, they would be called gold diggers, but not all girls are like that. Some girls may like a guy that earns more than themselves and may like the guy for something else as well, so not just the money.

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  • Hmmm, lots of females answered this question just like lots of females answered the question "What exactly do girls bring to a relationship" that I read before somewhere on this site. Interesting...

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  • No. Usually when you're in your 20's the female makes more money than the male.

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    • Coz the women are more responsible and proactive than guys?

    • Guys take awhile to pull their heads out of their asses.

    • Because at that age girls use their bodies to get jobs, and mouths [both] to get promotions; an yes, that is based on 7 of my 'friends' . So if you say otherwise..well I know I'm right for 7 our of that supermarket o.o"

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