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Most Helpful Girl
Leagues only exist when people believe they do, for example in school.
I recently had to reject a male school- friend of mine who I've known for several years, because I'm already happily in a long-term relationship. This friend has been hinting for a while now that he always felt there was 'something between us', and I didn't disagree with him, there might have been; but the fact is he waited till three years after we left school to say anything.
We became relatively close friends when we were about 15 and had both just gone through bad breakups. We quickly became FWBs. We hung out a lot outside school, but in school that wasn't the case- the best I got was that maybe he'd come to talk to me on the bus if none of his friends were around. Why was this? Because he was charismatic, good looking with lots of friends, while I was introverted, plain and the deputy head's daughter (never helped anything).
This didn't hurt too much, I was happy to just be there for him as a friend when he needed me, as he was going through some complicated family stuff at the time. Like selfishstars said, I was too insecure to believe I had a chance with him, so I didn't take his flirting seriously- part of me even thought maybe he had a bet with someone about me, or it was a big joke. I think that he also believed that associating with me too much would damage his social status, and we just weren't in the same social groups, didn't have the same friends.
Anyway, had he asked me out in school when I was single, I probably would have said yes, and maybe we'd even be together now. However he didn't- he waited till there were no school friends to mock him, and by then it was too late.
So in short, leagues exist but only in our minds, and they do nothing but hold us back. I think once school is over they disappear though, or at least among mature people...