Example (from most important to least):
Sense of humor
Honesty etc etc etc
Most women are different and value things as such but when a female begins the process of projecting themselves with a man their mind immediately goes down the mental checklist and criteria. It is human nature, men do it too but I am interested in gauging the female community here. I think the thing that separates the guys women can see themselves with and ones they cannot is almost always related to what's happening above the shoulders.
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Confidence. NOT arrogance. Even an unattractive guy grabs my attention if he's confident. Intelligence, second. Kindness (toward me at least), third. Sense of humor, fourth. (I think personal hygiene should be number 1, but if you only shower every other day, I wouldn't freak. As long as you keep yourself clean.) Exterior beauty is a big factor in getting most people's attention, but it comes in last for me IF (and only if) you show CONFIDENCE. (I repeat, NOT arrogance.) It has been proven that men are more attractive to women when they are very confident. A good article for you is called, "6 Factors That Secretly Influence Who You Have Sex With" on cracked.com. I can't post a link, but go to the site and search that title in the search bar, and it gives quite a few good answers I've found extremely helpful.