Is there anyway I could overcome this shyness?
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For me, it was a matter of forcing myself to say things even though I felt too shy to. The more I did it, the more comfortable I became with doing it.
When I was younger, I used to have moments all the time where I wanted to say something, but I felt so shy that I couldn't get the words out of my mouth, and if I did, I felt like it sounded weird or the words got jumbled and then I just felt stupid.
I had this moment when I was about 17. I was sitting on the bus and next to me there was this guy, maybe a few years older than me, drawing. He was drawing this amazing picture of a dragon and I was amazed at how he was able to draw so well, even on a bumpy bus ride. I wanted to compliment him on it, but I couldn't get the words out of my mouth. I tried a few times, and I couldn't. Then I thought to myself, "This is stupid. People make small talk all the time, no problem, and I can't say this one silly thing. It's just a compliment too, it's not like I'm trying to ask him out on a date or anything, what's the worst that could happen?" So, I forced myself to say, "That's really good." It was difficult for me, but I forced myself to do it anyway. And do you know what happened? He said, "Thanks" and smiled. I thought, I was so afraid to say that, and what for?
After that, I made a decision that I would continue to force myself to talk to people, no matter how hard it was. And I did. It was hard at first, but the more I did it, the easier it became---especially when I realized that more often than not, people responded positively to me.