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I work with a woman who has your shape. She wears a lot of dresses and has jeans that do fit her. She wears skinny jeans too. She rocks her shape though not everyone would feel comfortable wearing such body conscious clothing as she does. She definitely stands out.
Regarding fit, you need to find a good tailor and learn about getting clothes fitted to your needs. I understand Kim Kardashian has everything tailored. There is no way she can wear off the rack. You probably need to find what fits your butt and thighs and have the waist taken in. I am not short but a little too tall for petite. So I always have to get my jeans hemmed. I realize that you may feel having clothes altered is not cost effective but beyond that you may not be able to get clothes that fit properly.