this is me. I'm 18. link girls often say I'm cute and pretty and natural, but guys don't pay a lot of attention to me. when they comment on my looks they say I'm plain, average, nothing special. sometimes they even call me ugly.
this is my sister. she's 15. link guys think she's hot and sexy, she has so many guys after her and I'm so jealous. obviously she wears more makeup and dresses up more than me.
should I start dressing up more like her? everyone says my good personality should get me the right guy but nothing is working! not even approaching guys myself! I don't want to look easy and slutty, but I want guys to think I'm pretty. what should I do?
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The guys are looking at your sister because she is dressing and acting in a very sexual way. She's going to attract guys because those guys want to have sex with her. And, in fact, most of them are going to want to ONLY have sex with her, as opposed to having a relationship with her.
Your look is much less sexual. You are pretty, have nice bone structure in your face, and have nice eyes. But, at least going by that picture, your clothes aren't girlie (more tomboyish) or colorful and you haven't really done anything with your hair or makeup. Guys your age have their hormones in overdrive, and every other thought is about sex, but they see you and it looks (to them) like you're making ZERO effort to attract guys, so they probably assume you don't want any of their attention. Again, let me remind you that most guys your age are immature and shallow, and sex-crazed.
IMO, you don't need to wear tight, revealing clothes or wear lots of makeup like your sister, which sends the wrong message (the message you specifically stated you don't want). But, instead of turning your look up 10 notches to look like her, try turning it up 1 or 2 notches. Wear some color and stuff that's just a bit more girlie, do a little something with your hair (nothing radical), and maybe a bit of highlights with your makeup if you want. We're talking small differences with your look that will make big changes in perception.
Stay with casual looks, but stuff that looks both fun (not too formal or conservative) but feminine. Wear dresses or skirts occasionally, and shirts with a bit more girlie style, and you'll send just the right message.
You have no issues with your face or body, it's just a little tweaking of the overall presentation that's needed.2