Do you believe others when they tell you that you look hot, pretty, handsome etc?

So, when I see myself in pictures or look in the mirror, I see someone average looking maybe a bit higher on good days. Yet quite a few people tell me that I'm hot or pretty etc even when I'm having a bad day. I don't believe them, probably because I'm quite insecure and have always had self esteem issues. I seem to think that they're lying and when I say 'Really?' or 'Why do you think that?' it sounds as if I'm fishing or something, I don't know. Anyways... my question is (to both girls and guys) do you actually believe people when they tell you that you look good, if you don't think so yourself?
  • Yes, always.
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  • Sometimes, it depends on who it is.
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  • No, never.
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  • I've realized the fact that I see something totally different than what others see. I've had days where I felt just "meh" and had someone tell me I was beautiful. I've started to listen to them. Instead of make excuses, I just accept the compliment,. and in my own head I accept it too- I don't try to dismiss it.

    Turns out- that's one of the best things you can do for yourself- accept a compliment. Then, try to view yourself through the eyes of those people giving you the compliment. I've been doing that, and you know, I feel so much better and happier. I've dated a few guys who were heavy on the compliments, so I try to replay those when I feel down.

    I do believe people though, and I think they genuinely mean it. Most people have nothing to gain by lying to me about my appearance. Even a man wanting to sleep with me. I realize he is complimenting me to butter me up, but even so, he wouldn't be asking for my attention if he didn't think I was cute/pretty/etc.

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    • Good One^...need to listen to her..and is upsetting to me when I tell a female she is attractive and she immediately contradicts me..makes me want to go find a female that is easier to get along with.(:

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What Guys Said 21

  • Not really, but I don't care too much about how my looks are, but I do care about my clothes and style. I hear it all the time " Your cute" Or " Your so handsome" "Sexy" and all the other bs compliments.

    I guess I never "accepted" my looks, I'm just Meh about it all. I think my personality outshines my looks in my opinion and I tend to rely on it to get people I'm interested to look at me rather then the other people.

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  • Wow, there are some people with REALLY low self-esteem here.

    I voted B.

    I know I'm not the greatest looking guy in the world, but apparently I'm good looking enough to interest cute girls, so I'm happy! XD

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  • C...last thing I care about is how I look, how I think...while respecting others...

    uh and yeah I don't such compliments :D

    anyway...funny to call it"compliments" ...wouldn't that mean it is not real?!

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  • No. My dad always says that I am a handsome man, but I know that he is just saying that because he is my dad, and he wants to make me happy. Nobody else says I look good.

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  • i know I look good no matter what anybody says. you just lack confidence and like you said self esteem. most teens do. somebody says you look good its probably because you are good looking, and are looking good. you are your own worst enemy

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  • well actually this is a really good question... some days I feel terribly ugly , others I felt handsome as no other :p most of the times I do't really 100% believe it when someone says I look hot . like for example some days ago my sister told me some of her friends call me her 'hot single little brother XD I was like : really? I found that hard to believe...

    I think I sometimes feel like I can't be hot as I have trouble getting a relationship ...

    so I need to nuance my answer , I do believe they say it more or less genuinely , but I add other values to their 'thinking of me as a hot person' depending on the looks of the one who gives the compliment

    , when a person who I think is unattractive tells me I'm hot , it has less value than when it comes from a person I think is good looking . also when a person from your family tells you you look pretty it's less valuable because they are more or less obligated to give you some compliments now and then XD

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    • * note : I consider myself as good looking (after all , I'm living with myself for quite some time , so I better like myself ;-) ) , but it often surprises me when others say it ...

  • Yeah, I don't see any reason as to why not, unless it's from my parents.

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  • no never, because I'm hardly ever told that anyways

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  • Nope never I know women look at me, and say too themselves what an ugly fat sob he is.

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  • ...I'm sexy and I know it. ;)

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What Girls Said 31

  • It depends on who is complimenting me but most of the time I don't believe when people are complimenting me. When my guy says it I always say "you have to say that because you're my guy" and he says that he doesn't have to say anything and he wants to say it. But some times I feel people have to say something nice to make small talk and that's the only reason they are complmenting me.

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    • Gonna say you are hawt..you don't really let me see your face behind that mask..but I get the idea you are good looking...nice legs..so how could that be not good?...(:

    • thanks... hahahaha

  • i don't believe it from men off the street...but I have gotten it from a few female co-workers...what do you think?

    then another guy I hung out with...just chatting about something, the convo. was like I am not that pretty...he said you r...

    what do you think?

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  • Not always. At the end, it all boils down to if I feel pretty or not, regardless of who says I am. Although, compliments are always nice and always brighten my mood, but it doesn't keep me feeling pretty. The only time I can constantly feel pretty is if I alone think of myself as pretty.

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  • No I don't. I don't like saying really or why do you think that anymore because I feel like it is fishing for more compliments which I do not want. I like being complimented on things other than my looks.

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  • if someone tells me something, I believe it. I don't think people would say it if they didn't think so.

    the biggest compliment ever is when someone you don't know comes up to you randomly and compliments you - then you know it's true!

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  • When someone "Compliment me in general" I just lose words,hate it and just don't want to hear it lol,even though it is nice,I just don't take it seriously.

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  • It depends on who is that person and what is their intention for telling me so.I know some people who compliment others for personal reasons.

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  • sometimes,

    if it was actually from someone I liked or thought it was cute, then yes I would believe it

    if it is from friends or familiy that doesn't count lol

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  • I've had self esteem issues too. And if it is some one I trust, and not related to me, I believe them.

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  • I will believe compliments for the most part. I even believe them when they come from my mom, because she can be brutally honest lol.

    I have gotten more compliments as I've gotten older and more confident in myself. And I don't really see why someone would go out of their way to compliment you if they didn't mean it. It's just insecurity that holds us back from believing it.

    I don't see the harm in taking compliments for what they are - it really helps boost your confidence, especially if you're having a bad day. That's the same reason I love to GIVE compliments, too.

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