Explain your stance on high heels?

I understand that sometimes women want to look sexy for their significant other, but I personally have never found High Heels to be attractive.

The way I see it, if my lady is uncomfortable then I am uncomfortable. I don't want her to be trying to look provocative (or with less flamboyant heels, more attractive, taller, etc) if it is going to risk not only her discomfort but her all round health. I find it to be captivating when a girl just wears shoes that she finds comfortable and can walk around with me without worrying about looks.

High heels are comparable to corsets; they may make the wearer feel sexy (and because the opposite gender to find it sexy as well) but in the end it causes long term health problems as well as immediate nuisances. (Just search "High Heel Health Problems" if you are unaware of the risks associated).

I know it's not, but I want it to be time for High Heels to go out of fashion.

For girls:

If you were to throw out the "It makes me feel sexy" defense, why would you wear high heels and would you wear them even if your significant other displays a distaste for them?

If "it makes me feel sexy" is the only reason then how often do you wear them?

For Guys:

What, if anything, makes high heels so attractive to you if by having your significant other wear them causes them distress?

Both:

If you have no significant other, what would, if anything, change about your opinion on high heels including the frequency of wearing them for girls and the appeal for guys?
Updates:
If my girlfriend wants to wear them because she wants to look good, then I won't stop her. I want her to feel her best as much as possible :)


If she wants to wear them to make herself attractive to me, then I would let her know that she doesn't have to, but I will never go to a person and tell them not to do something.


I am not saying that they're ugly, just I prefer them not to be worn.

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  • I don't wear them on regular days, but if there's a special occasion or I'm going out and want to look good, I usually will. That's likely not going to change if I have a boyfriend who dislikes them. I like heels, I think they look good, and I wouldn't wear anything I feel very uncomfortable in. I don't wear them daily, so I'm not at risk for ruining my feet or anything. Hopefully he'd understand my point of view and not bug me about it.

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  • i cannot believe you researched the risks and negatives of wearing high heels lol

    i just can't see any guy in real life being against a girl wearing high heels because of those reasons, it sounds incredibly nitpicky and slightly controlling to me.

    i wear them every now and then. I know a lot of men find heels sexy, but my main concern with them is on the fashion part. they look better with some outfits

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  • There are heels that I know I can rock, and those that I can't. So if I'm going out somewhere with my guy, then I don't usually put heels on because I know I'll do something stupid and trip. But my guy doesn't care whether or not I have heels on, because to him I'm always beautiful!

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  • The thing is that if the heels are fit right and the girl knows how to wear them, then they don't hurt. I like them because I think they change in outfit in a good way and can make it look sexier or classier. I wouldn't stop wearing them because my boyfriend didn't like them. I'd be very appreciative that he cares about my comfort that much but they really don't bother me when I wear them to stop.

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  • Yeah, they do make me feel somewhat sexy but they do hurt, so if I'm going to be doing a lot of walking, I'll wear flats or low heels. But some women who constantly wear them may be used to the pain & don't really notice it. I've never had a guy show a distaste for high heels, so I don't know how I'd react. But I'd still wear them if I wanted to simply because they make ME feel sexy.

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  • I wear them rarely, because I'm almost 5'11", and frankly, I'm not dressing for my boyfriend. Heels make women feel tall and sexy (fact is, they make your lower half look better) They aren't good for your feet, but they're fine occasionally.

    "It makes me feel sexy" isn't a defense, it's the reason women wear heels. Really. There is no other reason.

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  • Your take on heels kind of annoys me because you aren't the one wearing heels so why do you care about them? I wear heels pretty much everyday because they are comfortable to me, go with my style and I like them so why shouldn't I wear them? If they were such a serious health hazard they wouldn't be allowed to be sold. Wearing heels is just my thing I don't see why heels are a big deal to me they are just other shoes.

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    • If you look at it that way then why care about anything at all if you aren't in a direct involvement with a problem?

      I care because I care about her. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Tell me if there is.

      However if she likes them, then I have no place to make her feel differently.

      And if you follow the logic of "serious health hazards" then things ranging from cigarettes to anything with artificial sweeteners wouldn't be sold.

      Not a big deal, just a preference.

      Thanks your answer

  • Actually, my guy friends hate it when I wear heals because it really slows me down, but from time to time I'll do it anyway - I'm 4'11 and I love being able to actually be taller than their shoulders from time to time. :p

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  • I love everything about heels. I have several pair that hurt my feet, but most of them are reasonably comfortable, unless I have to walk long distances in them. They don't just make me feel sexy, they make me feel classy and feminine. And in all honesty, they don't because me much "distress." Girls wear a lot of uncomfortable things akin to heels and corsets, such as extremely tight pants, bras with tight plastic pieces in them that jab into our ribs, heavy earrings, thongs, ect. If we walked around in sweat pants all the time, we just wouldn't be as striking.

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  • They HURT! I prefer not to wear them. I'll only wear them if I know I won't have to walk very much. I do know how to walk in them tho. And I can run in em too. But I prefer not to wear them :P

    Sure they make me look sexy, but I'm not that desperate in attracting a man

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  • I don't like them. They're super cute some of them, but they hurt my feet. I find my height to be perfect. I don't need to be taller. The only time I'll wear any form of heels is when I wear my cowgirl boots! :)

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What Guys Said 2

  • I thik they should be worn only on special occasions, not all day long. But don't hold your breath, so many women depend on their looks for their careers...For all the rhetoric, most women still are judged on their sexiness more than on their ability or humanity...

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  • My stance on high heels is for me to decide, not you. I like them enough to wear them and make them part of my wardrobe selections. It's not my place to decide for others nor is it their place to make these personal decisions for me. Yes there are a lot of people with negative opinions towards the wearing of heels, but there are also a lot of people with positive opinions. The ones who actually have any viable choice in this matter are those who wear them. Those that have already decided not to wear them, don't have to worry and those who aren't willing or haven't taken the time to find and wear the heels that fit properly and comfortably, are projecting their ignorant and desired perspective for or against.
    We are all individuals by nature with our own set of thoughts and ways to think, tastes, abilities, and appearance. Nobody else has the ability to know another's every consideration and concern. Apparel is suppose to cover and protect. All the other properties and adornments attiring offers are for each person to choose. Nature set it up to work this way, but society intervened in this natural process and started to dictate what it wants us to wear. This intervention violates nature's principle for us to have the freedom to make our own appareling choices as to what is available and properly fits. Even though society has the tradition on its side of doing this, it is still violating our personal agency to choose for ourselves.

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