I personally don't think it's fair. Most men says it's the personality, and then looks. But I'm finding out that doesn't seem to be true.
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I agree with you. It's pretty silly. I think as a society we need to bring people up and find better ways to treat people. Yes there are fat people in society, and yes some of them are unhealthy. But not every fat person is fat because of the same reasons. Some people want to categorize everyone into specific stereotypes, and it seems that the 'fat person' stereotype is one of the ones still acceptable to use.
I can understand why someone who is very athletic and health driven may not want to date someone who is not. Their hobbies may not be accommodating to the other, possibly. But I think where society goes wrong is when it lumps all people who are not athletically built or slim into the "OMG they are obese they are automatically ridiculously unhealthy category". I'm pretty sure I will get thumbs down for this, but you can be bigger and still healthy. It's just a matter of one's lifestyle. There are also slim and average sized people who are unhealthy. I have friends who eat junk all the time but don't gain it. They are only now starting to see how bad it is.
I know when I was online, I found it hard to find a guy who would even message me back or talk to me because I put on my profile that I was "larger". I even had full-body pictures of me. But guys were still turned off because they figure if I was larger I must be massive!
I even had some guys surprised when they met me because they were figuring I was much bigger than I actually was. I don't know why some people are so afraid of hanging around with someone larger. It's silly! I exercise, I eat healthy, but I am still fat! I have a condition, and it sucks because people always dismiss it, even though they have never been through what I have been through.
I find it odd because I don't seem to have any issues in regular life. I can go to the store and nobody takes notice. I am not really that big. But in the dating world it's this big deal. I guess it's just the society we live in.