i am convinced that because of my average looks, I have no friends. there is nothing special about me, no personality, no looks, no money, no reputation. thus, that is why I believe I have no friends (or never even had a boyfriend, let alone a male friend for 22 years of my life on earth)...or maybe it's just because I never talk to anybody in my college classes. even if I did talk to them, nothing would ever come out of it.
i know some of you will say, no it's the personality, but is it really the case?
my mom (who I look up to alot) tells me that pretty people (think thin, attractive, typical rich caucasian people) have an advantage and have more friends than homely people.
what do you guys believe based on your experiences?
No sugar coating, please. just the cold truth.
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Yes, and no. Really attractive girls often have many more male friends than female friends. They tend to attract a lot of male attention to begin with, so they tend to friend-zone these guys frequently, as they can't date 20 guys at once. This also creates a problem for really attractive girls.
A beautiful girl is going to be better looking than a lot of other girls out there, and can often lower the self-confidence of the average girl. When they are in a public setting, more often than not, the guys will flock towards the more attractive of the two girls, leaving the average girl feeling unwanted. This can create a silent war of competition for looks, and even leave the average girl feeling jealous or bitter. Female friendships often break up this way when one girl is considerably more attractive than the other.
For the reasons above, really attractive girls often have many more male friends than female friends. A majority of their male friends would like to either sleep with or date the really attractive girl. Some of them may be good friends, but a lot of them would like more than friendship.
As for average looking girls, they can find friendships. The key to finding, making and keeping friendships alive is to be a more giving person to those you come in contact with. If you are friendly, warm and sharing, people want to be your friend.
If you are hard on yourself (insecurities) or others (constant criticism) then people tend to shy away from you. Looks do play a factor to a degree, but unless you really deformed or extremely obese, friendship matters much more about how you project yourself to the world on the inside, not just the outside.
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