No matter how many times people try and tell me it doesn't matter, I just don't buy it. I read everywhere how being short is quite literally one of the worst traits a guy can poses in the dating world and in many cases, outright disqualifies him from being a potential lover. From experience this seems to be the case contrary to what some people try and say.
Just sitting at a table with all of my friends. I'm usually the one guy that has never hooked up with at least one of the girls. I'm rarely the object of any girls desire, I'm never the guy that hooked up with someone last night at that party, I'm never the guy that gets the phone number at the bar, I'm never the guy that some girl wants to date. It's always one of my friends.
I've really done some self reflecting and every time I come to the same conclusion. It's because I'm very short and all my friends are pretty tall. I'm 5'4 to be exact and most of my friends are around 6ft. I mean, they do say that they've done studies that suggest a short guy needs to make $175k to have the same level of attractiveness as a guy who is 6ft. In other words those 8 inches are worth $175. THAT'S HUGE! Not to sound arrogant, but I know I have a lot going for me so I know its not that I'm just not attractive or something. Even other people have confirmed this. I've had girls tells me I'm attractive, I've had girls compliment me numerous times on my style, I have a good body because I go to the gym regularly, I don't smoke, I drink minimally, I have a good career and good money, I have a good home life, I treat people with respect, I'm smart, I play in a rock band, I'm athletic, I'm told I'm mature and wise, people tell me I'm very well liked and have no enemies, I'm outgoing and can fun doing just about anything, I'm very social, I don't sit and play a bunch of video games, I know how to flirt and talk to women, and the list goes on and on.
My point is on paper, I feel like I'm the perfect boyfriend. Even on GaG's reality check, my average rating is a 9.5. So why is it that a guy like me is being ignored while my ugly, socially awkward, no style, borderline alcoholic friends have girls wanting to hook up with them left and right?
Be brutally honest, am I'm too short and the majority of women overlook me, or am I just unlucky. Again I'm 5'4.
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You ARE short and that will hold you back with some girls who are taller than you. No way around it.
BUT ... I know several short guys personally who did pretty good with women. I think what you're overlooking is that you don't drink much and your friends are hooking up with drunk girls at parties. Generally, "party crowds" are promiscuous and incestuous (a lot people in that same group of associates have hooked up with a lot of other people in the group). A lot of wild girls don't want boyfriends who aren't wild too. Just being at the party isn't enough -- party girls are drawn to the guys who show they live the same insane lifestyle that they do. You don't want a wild girl, anyway. So what are you doing at parties and bars so much?
I think what you need to do, is find more girls outside of your immediate social circle who have other interests. Not gonna lie, being short makes it harder for you -- but so do plenty of other things that people have -- big noses, social anxiety, acne, etc, and so on) ... who end up in happy relationships.0
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