I've been with my boyfriend for a year. Our anniversary was five days ago, actually.
For our anniversary, he drove up to my school (I'm in college) and brought me a dozen red roses and took me out for a nice dinner.
We then went back to my school, went for a walk, and then went to my room. We didn't have sex, but there was some intense making out and I did give him oral.
Then we cuddled and talked and then I walked him back to his car.
He contacted me via text the next day and we talked all that day. He usually calls me every night between 10 and 11 and we talk. He hasn't called today yet. He hasn't texted me all day. At least not since 10 AM this morning.
I know this isn't because he doesn't like my physical appearance. I'm a fairly attractive girl. Physically speaking, I'm fit and have a nice butt and a decent sized chest. So he wasn't turned off by me physically.
I'm feeling neglected and like he doesn't care. I have expressed this concern to him before, but he's returned to not talking to me really.
I understand that he has a life and I understand that he's busy, but all I'm asking for is for him to text me a little more. I know we can't call during the day because of school.
I've been feeling pretty neglected for a few weeks now. Mostly this past week. Is neglecting a reasonable cause for a break up?
I would wait until I went home next weekend (the 12th) and break up in person. I think that's better than over the phone/text.
I do love him very much. He was the perfect boyfriend for the past year minus the last few weeks. I've been away so I know it's hard, but he agreed to put in the work and he hasn't been.
He's been the most fantastic boyfriend. He's been kind, and funny, and charming. And I've known him for five years before we dated, so I know he wasn't faking.
I've asked him if he's OK and he just says he's stressed from school and sports and homework. But I'm not really buying it.
So could I break up with him and have it be reasonable or do you think there's a way to save this relationship or what?
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You should save this relationship. It sounds like you really like him. Maybe just drop the subject of calling you more often, and instead hang out more on the weekend. And when you know he's less busy or has more time then bring up the subject of talking again. If he is a good boyfriend, then why let him go?0