whats the very first thing you look for in finding a partner?
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Not judgmental. Now prepare for a rant.
I'm sick of the movie portrayals, and the groups of women, who compete to be as unimpressed by things as possible. Sometimes it's girls with little to offer, expecting the man to jump through hoops and walk on eggshells to prove they are worthy of her presence. It's irritating.
A relationship shouldn't be a power struggle.
I've been in situations where the girl left the moment I wasn't actively impressing her. Had a "friend" once who said "Why should I ever take time from my life to meet a guy? They should be the ones making the effort." So she got to focus on keeping her grades up and enjoy swarms of attention without lifting a finger.
Guys just can't get away with that kind of stuff. If a guy spends his life focusing on school or a career, he basically ends up alone. Girls can be passive, shy, or nerdy and still get plenty of attention. But a guy doesn't get attention unless he's a "real man", makes the move, isn't stingy with his own money, has experience, isn't awkward about the approach, etc. etc.
So if I was to say anything, the two words I would use for the first personality traits I look for are "humble" and "appreciative". Just understanding that I'm just as human as she is, not some superhero.3