How can I become more interested in making sure I look great all the time, keeping myself down to a size 6-4, wearing hotter clothes, etc?
I have a hard time caring about all of these things when I'm so busy (working 40-60 hours a week, commuting another 10). I haven't let myself go exactly, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to be dumped because I'm not as hot as I should be. How can I make those things a priority?
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As a guy who's been told he cleans up well, I think I can say this is in my wheelhouse.
When you're very busy it's best to have a simple set up that makes you easy to get up and going. Keep an easy to maintain haircut, take one day a week and do all the deep work - manicure/pedi, exfoliation, face masque, that sort of thing. Then the rest of the time use some high quality but subtle makeup.
Keep your outfits racked together in the closet. Take a day - make Sunday your spa and beauty day - and lay out a bunch of good looking clothes that go well together. That way each day you've got easy choices. When you're working that much, you don't have very long in the morning to put together a winning combo.
Sexually, learn from the pros. Down under, keep things trim. Shave and leave a landing strip or heart or smiley face, whatever, up top. Pluck any hair around your areolas, don't shave. Exfoliating everywhere gets rid of the cruft and makes your skin look younger and fresh. Put some perfume between your breasts and on your belly. Use lotion, all over. Everything looks better with moisture on it. Wear a darker shade of lipstick.
I stumbled across an ebook that was the sexual secrets of p*rn stars. Ended up being all about women, so I admittedly only read a little. That's what I remember as far as hygiene and makeup.
Take the stairs, not the elevator, park far away, the more you walk every day the higher your energy level will be overall. Drink green tea for the egcg, it increases your metabolism as well. Do yoga. In front of your man. In those yoga pants that just got recalled. Google it. Just knowing you're working on it (without the usual whining about it most guys hate) makes you more appealing. Do squats, do squats, do squats. And any other glute intensive exercise you hear about.
It should actually make him respond by trying to impress you. After all, when a man's girl is getting sexier, he's going to feel a little jealous of the attention she's getting, or even the attention he imagines she's getting. My ex wife started doing 5K and 10K runs and I started thinking about her new butt, and still get jealous. Ten years later. Don't tell her I said that.
And breathe. Relax. Meditate when you can. A calm confident woman is sexy.2